JOY FEELINGS MAGAZINE Feb.2015 | Page 15

Another major telltale sign of real love is selflessness and the ability to care. Does your man make sacrifices for you? Is he able to put your wants and needs before his? Relationships are all about give and take, but love is more about giving. COMMITMENT FACTOR #2 Being Able to Accept Imperfection Intellectually, we all know that there are no perfect people and, therefore, no perfect relationships. But it often takes maturity and dating experience to actually believe it. Take a client of mine, who broke up with a wonderful woman simply because he thought he could do better. A year later, he met someone else, who was also great but far from perfect. After two years of dating, he decided to propose. If he had met her a few years earlier, he would have broken up with her too. But now, he realizes that this is as good as it gets, though it took him several relationships to finally understand that. Having unrealistic expectations makes it impossible for a man to develop a close bond. If a guy who isn't ready starts getting too close to a woman, he'll look for imperfections,either consciously or subconsciously, to create distance between them and, ultimately, to give him a reason to break up with her. COMMITMENT FACTOR #3 He Truly Believes in Commitment Even if a man tells you that he's in it for the long term, you won't really know the