Jewish Life Digital Edition October 2015 | Page 16

TEENS TODAY YOU ARE A MAN / WOMAN! Tomorrow, it’s back to the 7th grade Officially an adult, what does being Jewish mean post bar/bat mitzvah? I BY CHANDREA SEREBRO THE TEENAGE YEARS ARE A TRYING TIME – THE time between being a child, carefree with licence to grow and develop in one’s Jewish identity, to slowly becoming a fullfledged, responsible adult with the Torah mitzvot incumbent on us, integrated into our lives. The in-between years are grey, especially when it comes to Jewish identity. How do we keep on a high from the time spent learning and preparing for our bar/bat mitzvah with us in the years that follow, while still allowing ourselves to grow and find our place in the world? I come from a family with a very strong sense of Jewish heritage. I was lucky enough to celebrate my bar mitzvah in a small, intimate shul environment, and because of this, there was a lot of one-onone attention given to me. This stimulated me to carry on and show my love for Judaism. The year after my bar mitzvah, I joined Bnei Akiva, which was a turning point in my Jewish life. It was here that I met a wonderful mentor and madrich who has encouraged me to continue davening daily. We have our own davening group every morning and most Sundays in the late afternoon, where we go for JADE BERSON NOAH MARKS milkshakes and learn whatever is relevant for me at the Bnei Akiva bayit. King David encourages this kind of learning and makes the whole process easy. Staying connected as a Jew in my perspective comes a lot from the family. My father and I still continue to go to shul every Shabbos, even after my bar mitzvah. Without having a bar mitzvah, I don’t feel I would have developed such a strong need to be connected as a Jew. I am inspired now by people around me, from my friends to my teachers to my madrichim and family. I was privileged recently to spend some time with a Holocaust survivor, who told me his THE YEAR AFTER MY BAR MITZVAH, I JOINED BNEI AKIVA, WHICH WAS A TURNING POINT IN MY JEWISH LIFE. NOAH MARKS Being Jewish right now means I am part of the Jewish nation and I am proud to have a Jewish identity. It’s important to me to follow Jewish values and traditions that have been passed down from generation to generation, to connect with Hashem, and to treat others with compassion and love. Since becoming bat mitzah, I have embarked on a journey of self-growth. I have applied what I have been taught, fulfilling mitzvot and living by Torah values. My family and I are now shomrei Shabbat and attend shul for all the chagim and many simchas. I enjoy making challah with my mom each week. The youth madrichim at Linksfield Shul have inspired me to be an example for the younger members and to run children’s services to connect with them. I was recently contacted by twin girls from Pennsylvania in the USA. They wanted to know how girls in South Africa celebrated their bat mitzvahs, and I got on board to help out. They were fascinated by our programmes and our strong Jewish roots and PHOTOGRAPHS: SUPPLIED NOAH MARKS story in a private setting. To see the numbers on his arm and hear how Jews suffered in this terrible time left a lasting impression, making me extremely grateful to be able to be free to perform Jewish activities in a safe environment. I cannot wait for next year to go on hadracha and see Israel through my own eyes. I am very proud to be a young Jew in South Africa. 12 JEWISH LIFE ■ ISSUE 89 Jewi