Jewish Life Digital Edition April 2014 | Page 59

Affluenza – a painful, contagious, socially transmitted condition of overload, debt, anxiety, and waste resulting from the dogged pursuit of more. From: Affluenza: The All-Consuming Epidemic, John de Graaf, David Wann & Thomas H Naylor LAUREEN SHALPID FUN FINANCE “Ever felt like you are having an out of money experience? So cash-strapped that you have nowhere to turn? Maybe you need to tighten that belt a little more? These are all common questions we hear when it comes to budgeting our earnings. “For many years, I worked in a community organisation where I saw how people battled to make ends meet; people becoming desperate by their dire financial situations. This motivated me to start looking at how we could change people’s lives in order to prevent these points of stress and difficulty. After much research, I realised that financial literacy should actually begin at a very young age. “According to the Social Learning Theory by Albert Bandura, people learn through observing others’ behaviour, attitudes, and outcomes of those behaviours. Children mimic their parents’ behaviours – either positive or negative – from a very young age. Therefore, as parents, we have the power and the potential to create, what I call, attitudes of gratitude in our children. When it comes to most forms of behaviours, we are greatly responsible for our children’s psychological wellness, including our children’s beliefs, values and ethics when it comes to financial issues. “We are bringing up children in a world of many temptations. Everything is readily available to us. We live in a universe of must-haves and instant gratification. However, within that lie a few problems. Firstly, do we have adequate funds to purchase these items? Are they really necessary? If I do not allow my kids these privileges, am I, as a parent, causing their social suicide? These are poignant questions for our children to understand. Protecting them from these types of discussions does not allow them the opportunity for critical thinking and being involved in the decision-making process. “Money and the discussions around it are often family taboo subjects. Sometimes this is caused by the parents themselves feeling insecure and unsure of how to manage their own budgets. They feel unequipped to then give positive advice to their children, and instead they create this cycle of mimicking bad hab- its. What is necessary at this point is to stop and take stock, and end that perpetual downward spiral of accumulated debt from destroying your family. “My focus over the past few years has been creating workbooks and stories for children between the ages of seven and 11 years old. According to Piaget, an educational psychologist from the 20th Century, children at this stage are in the concrete operational phase of learning, which helps them build cognitive skills through hands-on experiences. This is the time to start teaching your children the value of money: how they can save, how they can set goals, how they can practice delayed gratification in order to buy what they really need. Elaborate on the importance of being MAD, someone who can make a difference and be a charitable, giving person. These principles can only be taught and applied if we first get our children to mimic our positive attitude of gratitude. If we instil in the child the feeling that they have so much to be grateful for, ie, their health, their clothes, the fact that they receive an education, they have a roof over their head, they get food every day, then from that point you can ensure that money is just a means to improve one’s life and the lives of others, but it is by no means the one thing that can bring us fulfilment and happiness. “Fun Finance has created a series of engaging and interactive story books AS PARENTS, WE HAVE THE POWER AND THE POTENTIAL TO CREATE, WHAT I CALL, ATTITUDES OF GRATITUDE IN OUR CHILDREN. WHEN IT COMES TO MOST FORMS OF BEHAVIOURS, WE ARE GREATLY RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR CHILDREN’S PSYCHOLOGICAL WELLNESS, INCLUDING OUR CHILDREN’S BELIEFS, VALUES AND ETHICS WHEN IT COMES TO FINANCIAL ISSUES. – LAUREEN SHALPID JEWISH LIFE ISSUE 72 55