January/February 2018 | Page 16

By Dr. Gulia Omene, Associate Editor When I was in dental school I was one of the few people in my class who had no interest in owning my own practice. It was a common topic of conversation, but I never joined in the talks because the business of dentistry never appealed to me. I knew I wanted to have children some day and I did not want to be taking my work home with me every night worrying about marketing and overhead. My plan was to find a nice practice, go to work, enjoy my patients and go home at night worry free. All of my well-intentioned plans changed after I had my first daughter. The irony is not lost on me that the main reason I thought I never wanted to own my own practice became almost my entire reason for pursuing one. As my maternity leave ended and I started getting ready to head back into work, I found it harder and harder to leave my house in the mornings. The thought of leaving this ball of energy seemed almost impossible. I knew if I was going to continue to go to work (and my students loans seemed to suggest that I must) I had to have a bigger reason than just an hourly wage. I wanted to be able to build into something that I would have equity in and have something in my name that I could pass on when the time came. That is how, just two days after my daughter turned eight months old, I found myself sitting in a lawyer’s office signing the transition paperwork for my very own practice. The first eight or nine months were incredibly difficult. The hard work and determination it took to win over a group of patients very loyal to their previous dentist was almost as exhausting as it was being pregnant with my second girl. 14 JA NUA RY/F E B R UA RY 2018 | P EN N S YLVA N IA D EN TA L J O U R N A L There were many times I worried that I had made a mistake. There were many times I felt like I just was not good enough to do everything exactly the way I wanted to do it. My mom was the voice of reason more times than I would like to admit when I would call her crying about feeding my family Annie’s mac and cheese again. She told me, “You can’t do everything perfectly. You have to figure out what is the most important and do your best at those things, and if your house is messy for a couple years, so be it.” There are days that go well and there are days that I have to remind myself over and over again of her advice. I am learning with each day that if I have my faith, my family and my office in a pretty good place, I need to let go of the anxiety of the undone laundry, the clutter and the fact that I should probably buy stock in Annie’s mac and cheese. I often feel like I have three kids: my two girls and the practice. And that can be rough. When I am with the girls I worry that everything is running smoothly at the office and when I am at the office I worry if the girls are having fun. But I also think there are a lot of benefits to the four of us growing up together. I am proud to bring my daughters to work and to show them what their Mommy does when she is not at home. I’m proud of the work I do and I’m excited to show my patients new pictures of the girls at swim lessons or on a trip to the park. I enjoy being a part of a profession that is dynamic and challenging and I am fortunate, and eternally grateful, to have the benefit of a three-day weekend.