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7. SEE EACH OTHER IN A DIFFERENT LIGHT
Kristen Kiser, 30, of Astoria, NY, and her husband add a spark
to their marriage by hosting Thanksgiving dinner for friends
who can't make it home for the holiday. "I get to see what
Marc's like in action, when he's taking charge and acting the
host," she says. "It makes me fall in love with him all over
again." Says Los Angeles psychotherapist Suzanne Lopez, author of Get Smart with Your Heart, "Seeing your partner with
different eyes has to do with letting go of preconceived ideas. It
can really change the energy in a relationship for the better."
Other eye-opening ideas: Consider taking a boxing class together at the gym, where you both might be a bit more wild and
aggressive than usual, or dance lessons, where you might surprise each other with your grace.
8. BECOME A MASTER OF SEDUCTION
A little bit of forethought can awaken some of the passion in
your marriage, even on an ordinary Tuesday night. Rob
Czaplewski, 29, of Grand Island, NB, likes to get home from
work before his wife and put a love note on the back door.
"Then I have her favorite music playing with all the candles lit
in the living room and a bed of pillows on the floor," he says,
"and finally, the promise of a backrub to help her relax."
Jenna Schlehuber, 42, of Moran, MI, used a bottle of cologne to
build temptation. She bought her husband a scent she really
liked and had it wrapped. When he went upstairs that evening
to take his shower, she left it on his pillow with a card that said,
"Would you wear this tonight for me, and only this?" Says
Schlehuber, "After a few minutes, I went upstairs to find him
just the way I asked, waiting patiently for me to come to bed.
What a romantic evening we had — better than ever. And he
loved the cologne, too."
9. PROFIT FROM THE PASSION
Sex is something relationship experts universally agree will bolster just about every area of a marriage — including its thrill
quotient. "Increased sexual contact," says Lopez, "is a way to
recapture the erotic force that brought you together in the first
place." Weiner-Davis tells of one woman who, soon after resolving to have more sex with her husband, not only characterized her marriage as more thrilling but said that he suddenly
began mowing the lawn regularly and making her coffee in the
morning — unasked.
10. TAKE A TRIP TO NOWHERE
At the beginning of your relationship, every date was an adventure; you never knew quite what was going to happen or how it
was going to end up. So one weekend, take a trip — overnight
or just for the day — without knowing where you're going. No
packing, no planning. Says Patty Moosbrugger, 35, of New York
City, who's been married for six years, "Every now and then we
just grab sweaters and sandwiches and get on a train. We get
out when we feel like it and spend the day exploring wherever
we land." By letting go of some of the control you have over
your lives, you'll recapture that exciting sense of the unknown
you felt when you first met.
“Forget all the reasons why it won’t work, and believe the only reason
why it will - Unknown”
Remember Second Life is what
you as the player makes of it. It
has ups and it has it’s downs; you
will never know gain trust and
understand and enjoy you mate.
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