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I T ’ S A LL A BOUT R ALEIGH -F RAYSER -N ORTH M EMPHIS P AGE 13 affected tries to make sense of the betrayal. They may ask for more detail about the affair or retreat into themselves or quietly seek help from others regarding the issue. 3. Trust Building Stage. This stage takes place when the couple has decided to stay together. During this stage, the couple really tries to make their marriage work. They decide that a continued commitment to their relationship is important and with time, eventually forgiveness and trust can be achieved. After an infidelity occurs, you may still find yourself often doubting your partner. Don’t lose heart, there is hope. Here are some signs that may indicate if a person is still worthy of your love. Expresses sincere remorse and regret for cheating on you Heartfelt apologies feel true when you hear them Accepts total blame for his or her betrayal Cuts off all contact with the third party Shows a renewed appreciation, admiration, respect and devotion to only you Displays a willingness and openness to talk about what happened Is willing and eager to go into marriage counseling with you If both of you are willing to participate in a deep, open, and honest conversation regarding your relationship and how you would like it to progress, there is a good chance you will be able to work through your issues. If, on the other hand, your partner is not open to discussing these things with you and not demonstrating any of the possible reconcilement signs listed above, it may be time to cut your losses and get out. Additional signs that it might be time to end the relationship are: your partner seems to be more agitated than usual and seems to emotionally and physically withdraw from you. They may go out alone more often and may be making clandestine phone calls or working late hours. You might even receive anonymous phone calls at the house. If several of these things are occurring, then most probably your partner is cheating on you. If you can find concrete evidence of this infidelity, then it’s probably a good idea to break up. A relationship that is based on lies, lacks trust and lack of com- mitment is doomed to fail. After an infidelity occurs, be aware of any signs that may indicate your partner’s willingness to stay and work it out or clear intention to follow along the path of continued betrayal. Just be careful and pay attention. Make the best decision for you. Montgomery Heating and Air Conditioning Mechanical Contractors Alan Montgomery Owner 2740 Whitten Rd. Suite 119 Memphis, TN 38133 901-491-2255—Mobile 901-372-6021—Office 901-382-2800—Fax Tremendous Employment Opportunity with Black Market Strategies, LLC. Positions Available Sales Associate /Account Managers       Must have sales experience. Must be highly self motivated Must be goal and results oriented Must be a people person Leads provided. Commission only. If interested, email your résumé’ to: [email protected]