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P AGE 12 I T ’ S A LL A BOUT R ALEIGH -F RAYSER -N ORTH M EMPHIS After Infidelity: Make up or Break up by: Ruth Martin Relevance Info Services, an international publisher of quality information, approached me as an expert in relationship issues with the question if I could evaluate a number of websites that offer methods and tips for saving relationships and prevent a divorce. The fact is that, with respect for all the well meant kind of information, there are many offerings on the internet that are not based upon psychological principals. A lot of the presented materials cause more harm than any good. It is not composed by experts and that’s certainly not what you want. If you are in serious trouble the situation demands a professional approach by people that are very experienced in solving relationship issues. This article is about what to do after infidelity. More articles will follow about related subjects. An infidelity is a betrayal, a loss of trust. It is lying or disloyalty to one’s partner or lover. Infidelity may be sexual or emotional in nature and typically involves a third person. Infidelity does not necessarily involve physical separation, but can be characterized by emotional detachment as well. Emotional detachment can happen when you lose your partner’s trust or if you lie to your partner or tell them half-truths. Betraying your partner may inflict a deep pain that is difficult to repair and sometimes causes irrevocable damage to the relationship that hastens its end. There are many things that can occur in the wake of an infidelity. If you are married, an infidelity could lead to divorce. If you are in a committed relationship, it could lead to a break up. So what happens after infidelity occurs in your relationship? There are distinct stages a relationship goes through in the wake of an infidelity. 1. Roller Coaster Stage. This is the stage where strong emotions arise - emoti ½ΉΜΝՍ …́…Ή•Θ…ΉΝ•±˜΅‰±…΅”™½±±½έ•‰δ„Α•Ι₯½½˜₯ΉΡΙ½ΝΑ•Ρ₯½Έ…Ή…ΑΑΙ•₯…Ρ₯½Έ½˜Ρ‘”Ι•±…Ρ₯½ΉΝ‘₯ΐΈ)ΥΝЁ±₯­”₯ЁͅεΜ°ε½Υȁ•΅½Ρ₯½ΉΜΌ™½Θ„Ι½±±•Θ½…ΝѕȁΙ₯‘”°Υΐ…Ή‘½έΈ°Ι½ΥΉ…ΉΙ½ΥΉ…Ή₯ӊ鄁‰₯Ё‘…ɐΡΌ™₯ΥΙ”½ΥЁ•α…Ρ±δέ‘•Ι”ε½Τ…Ι”Έ€ΘΈ5½Ι…Ρ½Ι₯Υ΄MΡ…”ΈQ‘₯́ΝΡ…”₯́„±•Ν́•΅½Ρ₯½Ή…°ΝΡ…”°…Ё±•…ΝЁ™½ΘΡ‘”Α•ΙΝ½Έέ‘Όέ…́‘•…Ρ•ΥΑ½ΈΈ%ΈΡ‘₯́ΝΡ…”°Ρ‘”Α•ΙΝ½Έ(‘ ½ΉΡ₯ΉΥ•½ΈΑ…”€ΔΤ€((0