You Don’t Need Their Approval
I recently got triple piercings on each of my ears! My society takes it for something crazy
or something a typical slut would do but I am not any of the two; I just I got the piercings,
I love them and I feel good. Period! If I gave much value to what people thought and what
they would say, I wouldn’t have got them.
I am not saying that to be our best selves we should never listen, that would be rude and
dumb. The thing is that we just have to judge and decide. It’s our lives and not theirs, after
all.
A lot of dreams are killed, most people don’t get to their vision and the excitement we get
from our goals slowly fed away because we are surrounded by people who don’t
understand what we want to do, people who haven’t achieved much; because they are
already too busy listing things they shouldn’t do, things that their ancestors did not do
and that shouldn’t be done by them, as well… These very people who tell us to stop every
single move we are about to make in the name of being realistic and to fit in the society
norms that hold us from greatness most of the times.
Resistance holding us from being the best version of ourselves comes is in different
forms, but people telling us that we are insane because we dream a little too much are
insupportable. They are too much! We can’t throw them in some type of hole and carry
on with life without them, for these people are part of our lives and we love them, they are
either family or friends. The only thing we can do is understand who we are and meant to
be and make sure we teach them how to respect and support that.
You have to own who you are right before teaching people to respect that. Do you know
who you are or at least who you want to be? If no, then stop reading this and find out and
get back after (kidding). I don’t care if you find it out through meditation, fasting & prayers
or if you take online tests… All that matters is that you learn who you are and what you
want from life and what you want to give. It’s not something you find out in a snap, it will
take you time but it’s okay; the whole point is to find yourself not to win a race. When you
do or if you already know, then use all the energy (both internal and external) you have to
be that. Own who you are. It will automatically define what you don’t want to be and what
you must do to be the best version of yourself. People’s opinion will be welcomed but less
powerful if the opinion are not helpful. You won’t be afraid to take a leap towards your
dreams because you will know that if you fall you won’t break, but that you will just get up
and jump again until you get where you want.
Stop giving much attention to what they might say or not say. Give the attention to your
“what should I do?” and go with that. One person might want you to do this and another
that, you can’t even satisfy them all, so why give up on your identity to satisfy one person
who’s not even worthy? That person is not worthy because if they were they would
understand that you have to be yourself and they would support you till you own it fully.
Just do you and always remember that you don’t need the permission to be who you are
destined to be. It is your life, you don’t need their approval!
You Don’t Need Their Approval
By Nadia Lorraine