Issue No.21 - Polo De’Marco Magazine Issue No.21 - International Edition | Page 249

3. Lead and Be Decisive 7. Have Self-control and Standards There is nothing more unattractive than a man that can’t make decisions. When you go out on a date choose the venue. Women love it when you choose for them and make decisions.You can always give options, but you determine the options. Part of leading is making decisions and sticking to those decisions (be a leader). People may not always agree with that decision they’ll respect the fact that you’ve made a decision. Have self-control and be unmoved by women’s sexual charms. Be almost bored with beautiful women’s looks and sexuality. In your high standards and abundance mindset, there should only be some hot women you might consider hooking up with if it suits you and if she qualifies according to your standards that go beyond looks. Your frame and story should be the following: “I can sleep with any hot women I want, but they must prove to me beyond a doubt that they’re worthy beyond being physically attractive such as (insert criteria here). I’m extremely picky.” Whatever they say or do is never enough, you’re always pulling back (verbally, physically, mentally and socially) and they’re always chasing you to get your attention. Your frame is “I might be interested in this attractive woman, but I’m going to playfully investigate if she qualifies.” 4. Be a Gentleman with a “Bad Boy” Edge Another aspect of leading is being chivalrous. Although I don’t advocate going out on traditional dates (dinner etc. especially for a first or second date). I think you should be a man of service and having chivalry with women and everyone. For example, giving her your jacket if it’s cold, then you can just tease her “yeah i notice you were cold…(pause)…in certain areas”. This is edgy and playful, but it’s balanced with the right amount of being a gentleman. Think of Han Solo from Star Wars, he never accepted being a good guy he always played a bad boy persona even when genuinely helping people. Opening doors, walking outside of the curve (that depends on the culture), pulling out chairs and so on are good things to do. Being protective and making her feel safe and comfortable. As you create comfort with being protective you also build tension with your banter, teasing, flirting and jokes. Women interpret everything you say and do. So this is communicating a very strong message that you are a strong, chivalrous male with a sexy edge, not the typical nice guy. All in all, don’t make this technique. Genuinely be a good human being that helps others. 5. Be a Man of Purpose Have your own life and be a man of purpose. It’s always good to have plans and be a bit unavailable with women. It goes along with the previous trait of leading and making decisions. You are already on purpose or doing something that you love and she is welcome to come along. That’s the mindset with this trait. For example, if you’re inviting a girl out for a drink, don’t say “are you free this week or weekend?” Instead, lead and give a couple of options rather than showing that you’re completely open. 6. Be Unavailable and Unpredictable Part of having a life is being a bit unavailable and letting women schedule something with you ahead of time communicates that even if you lead they still have to court you. That free time with you doesn’t come around too often and that you have important things going on in your life. A few exceptions to this rule are; if you meet a girl and you invite her to join you for a drink or coffee right then and there. Also, if you’re in a culture that is more informal and more spontaneous when it comes to meeting up. Being a guy who has options in terms of women is very attractive. This is in the context of when you are first starting to date someone. Since this is the case sometimes you might turn down dates, sex, or women in general, because you have too much going on.Being picky, having standards for who you spend your time with is part of the attraction mindset. 8. Expect Respect Know that you deserve respect of your time, energy and property by women. This doesn’t mean that you demand respect but, rather if a woman flakes or doesn’t seem to be respecting you in any way, you move on. You don’t blow up on her. You simply move on. Everything should be on your terms. Have zero tolerance for drama or bad behaviour, just move on. There are no second chance with you. 9. Be Valuable and a Higher Status Man Know your value, be self-validated and congruent in your value. Put yourself on a pedestal. Have the mindset that models are the ones who show you off in front of their friends and other people. They treat you as a valuable commodity. The reason why this trait is so powerful is that most men have zero respect for themselves and are willing to sacrifice their values, beliefs, time, property and basically everything just to hang out with a hot woman, or to get a chance to sleep with them. Instead, value yourself, have respect for your beliefs and what you’re about. Then be congruent with that, and whether a hot woman agrees or not with you, she’ll respect the fact that you are being honest and authentically valuable. A big part of why these traits work so well and are so powerful is because they are not about getting laid or getting anything from women. They’re not a technique, but rather who you are choosing to be. Also, these traits are the opposite of trying to get something from women. In fact, you are giving women what they want, what they’ve read about in romance novels and fantasized about. The strong, powerful and authentic man. 10. Be Unimpressed by Superficial Things Be unimpressed by money, looks, power or status. Judge people based on character and how they behave. Treat everyone the same from a CEO to the janitor of a company, for example. This also applies to looks as well. Treat a hot woman just like you would treat a regular looking woman or any other person in regards to value. Value people on more than just those superficial things. To clarify, this doesn’t mean you stay away from high-end events or good-looking women. It just means that you are no longer emotionally affected by those things.