Issue No.21 - Polo De’Marco Magazine Issue No.21 - International Edition | Page 249
3. Lead and Be Decisive 7. Have Self-control and Standards
There is nothing more unattractive than a man that can’t make
decisions. When you go out on a date choose the venue. Women
love it when you choose for them and make decisions.You can
always give options, but you determine the options.
Part of leading is making decisions and sticking to those
decisions (be a leader). People may not always agree with that
decision they’ll respect the fact that you’ve made a decision. Have self-control and be unmoved by women’s sexual charms.
Be almost bored with beautiful women’s looks and sexuality. In
your high standards and abundance mindset, there should only
be some hot women you might consider hooking up with if it
suits you and if she qualifies according to your standards that go
beyond looks.
Your frame and story should be the following:
“I can sleep with any hot women I want, but they must prove to
me beyond a doubt that they’re worthy beyond being physically
attractive such as (insert criteria here). I’m extremely picky.”
Whatever they say or do is never enough, you’re always pulling
back (verbally, physically, mentally and socially) and they’re
always chasing you to get your attention. Your frame is “I might
be interested in this attractive woman, but I’m going to playfully
investigate if she qualifies.”
4. Be a Gentleman with a “Bad Boy” Edge
Another aspect of leading is being chivalrous. Although I don’t
advocate going out on traditional dates (dinner etc. especially
for a first or second date).
I think you should be a man of service and having chivalry with
women and everyone.
For example, giving her your jacket if it’s cold, then you can just
tease her “yeah i notice you were cold…(pause)…in certain
areas”. This is edgy and playful, but it’s balanced with the right
amount of being a gentleman. Think of Han Solo from Star
Wars, he never accepted being a good guy he always played a
bad boy persona even when genuinely helping people.
Opening doors, walking outside of the curve (that depends on
the culture), pulling out chairs and so on are good things to do.
Being protective and making her feel safe and comfortable.
As you create comfort with being protective you also build
tension with your banter, teasing, flirting and jokes. Women
interpret everything you say and do. So this is communicating a
very strong message that you are a strong, chivalrous male with
a sexy edge, not the typical nice guy. All in all, don’t make this
technique. Genuinely be a good human being that helps others.
5. Be a Man of Purpose
Have your own life and be a man of purpose. It’s always good to
have plans and be a bit unavailable with women. It goes along
with the previous trait of leading and making decisions. You are
already on purpose or doing something that you love and she is
welcome to come along. That’s the mindset with this trait.
For example, if you’re inviting a girl out for a drink, don’t say
“are you free this week or weekend?” Instead, lead and give a
couple of options rather than showing that you’re completely
open.
6. Be Unavailable and Unpredictable
Part of having a life is being a bit unavailable and letting women
schedule something with you ahead of time communicates that
even if you lead they still have to court you. That free time with
you doesn’t come around too often and that you have important
things going on in your life.
A few exceptions to this rule are; if you meet a girl and you
invite her to join you for a drink or coffee right then and there.
Also, if you’re in a culture that is more informal and more
spontaneous when it comes to meeting up.
Being a guy who has options in terms of women is very
attractive. This is in the context of when you are first starting
to date someone. Since this is the case sometimes you might
turn down dates, sex, or women in general, because you have
too much going on.Being picky, having standards for who you
spend your time with is part of the attraction mindset.
8. Expect Respect
Know that you deserve respect of your time, energy and
property by women. This doesn’t mean that you demand respect
but, rather if a woman flakes or doesn’t seem to be respecting
you in any way, you move on. You don’t blow up on her. You
simply move on. Everything should be on your terms. Have
zero tolerance for drama or bad behaviour, just move on. There
are no second chance with you.
9. Be Valuable and a Higher Status Man
Know your value, be self-validated and congruent in your value.
Put yourself on a pedestal. Have the mindset that models are
the ones who show you off in front of their friends and other
people. They treat you as a valuable commodity.
The reason why this trait is so powerful is that most men have
zero respect for themselves and are willing to sacrifice their
values, beliefs, time, property and basically everything just to
hang out with a hot woman, or to get a chance to sleep with
them.
Instead, value yourself, have respect for your beliefs and what
you’re about. Then be congruent with that, and whether a hot
woman agrees or not with you, she’ll respect the fact that you
are being honest and authentically valuable.
A big part of why these traits work so well and are so powerful
is because they are not about getting laid or getting anything
from women. They’re not a technique, but rather who you are
choosing to be.
Also, these traits are the opposite of trying to get something
from women. In fact, you are giving women what they want,
what they’ve read about in romance novels and fantasized
about. The strong, powerful and authentic man.
10. Be Unimpressed by Superficial Things
Be unimpressed by money, looks, power or status. Judge people
based on character and how they behave. Treat everyone the
same from a CEO to the janitor of a company, for example. This
also applies to looks as well. Treat a hot woman just like you
would treat a regular looking woman or any other person in
regards to value.
Value people on more than just those superficial things. To
clarify, this doesn’t mean you stay away from high-end events
or good-looking women. It just means that you are no longer
emotionally affected by those things.