Issue No.21 - Polo De’Marco Magazine Issue No.21 - International Edition | Page 247

The
Attraction
Mindset
Written by Felipe Yanez
F
irst of all, I want to tell you that this is not a guide on
what to say or what to do to attract women but rather,
it’s a guide on who to be. Being the right kind of guy that
naturally says and does the right things to attract the hottest
women. Before we dive into the 20 traits that naturally attract
hot women let’s demystify what attraction is as well as how to
practice having this mindset.
Being someone who naturally attracts women is not about
learning a technique or the right things to say. Rather, it’s about
being a certain kind of man with the right mindset, habits and
lifestyle.
As you embody the traits of this “Attraction Mindset” you’ll find
that in the beginning, it might feel inauthentic. There might not
be a lot of evidence to validate this new mindset.
Now, what is the attraction mindset and how do you get it? It
is made up of several different traits. Those traits include being
comfortable with women, being decisive, having a purpose in
life, and self-control, among other things which you’ll learn in
this guide.
Once you embody these traits there is very little to no
competition here. In fact, it will be beautiful women who will
compete for you and do most of the work.
As you go through each trait you may be asking but how do I
embody each trait or what is the technique to show these traits
to women? It’s simple visualize yourself having each one of
these elements and or having an abundant lifestyle full of the
hottest women. This is true whether you want to live a player
lifestyle or want to settle down with your ideal woman.
TRAITS OF THE ATTRACTION
1. Be Comfortable with Women
A man that has the abundance mindset is comfortable with
women and can deal with any “test”. Basically, you want to have
nothing at stake, be present, carefree and feel/act as if you are
with old friends when you’re around the women you like or
very attractive women. Always have a calm demeanour and
speak your mind.
Part of dealing with any test a woman throws at you is creating
your own playful “tests and being a challenge even before she
does it. You want to be testing and interviewing hot women
to see if they qualify to hang out with you, sleep with you, etc.
again in a playful manner. Not the other way around.
2. Be a Challenge
A good way to be a challenge is to say and do the opposite of
what women want to hear in a playful way. That’s what very
attractive women do and say. So, you’re basically stealing their
frame.
For example, hot women may say things to disqualify
themselves from being with you. Things such as “you can’t
handle me” or “I’m too much trouble for you”. Most guys then
act needy and try to qualify themselves to women. However, the
powerful thing to do here is to agree with her and take it a step
further by teasing her.
You could start disqualifying yourself playfully before she even
started. Perhaps saying a backhanded compliment such as “you
know it wouldn’t work between us”…pause…“we get along
too well...it’s a bit too boring” as you smile or smirk. Take this
example in the context of a girl you’ve just met or on the first or
second date.
You can always say the opposite of what they want to hear and
always challenge them. When they ask you to do something
either do the opposite or don’t do when they ask.
For example, when they ask what do you do for a living, you
can make a joke about it such as “I work from my computer,..
pause…doing webcam shows”…with a serious face and then
you may tell them what you do. Again, be a challenge and
comfortable with women so much so that you treat them like
you’re with an old friend.