11. Control Your Internal State
Never allow internal feelings for an exceptionally beautiful
woman to affect your outward actions or emotional responses.
You must learn to manage your emotions and inner reactions
very well and to separate them from your outer reaction.
How do you do this; Breath calm & deeply, lean back and get
physically relaxed. Find flaws with hot women or whoever you
might be seen as higher status. It’s similar to when you have a
hard breakup. We tend to idealise the other person and only see
their positive. Make fun of them in a lighthearted way and view
yourself and the room in a 3rd person (misidentifying from
yourself and the situation).
Another instance when you want to manage your inner and
outer reactions is when beautiful women begin to pursue you.
Yes, once you adopt this abundance mindset and traits they will
start chasing you! In these situations, you also want to remain
calm and relaxed as if it happens to you all the time. You reward
hot women by first not judging them, and by being calm and
collected they feel relaxed about chasing you too.
So, manage your mental & emotional state and it will have
a tremendous effect on your interactions with women. Try
meditation as well to help relax and be more present in general.
12. Be a Great Communicator
It is important to be assertive in your communication (fearless
of what you want to do), be decisive (fearless of disagreement)
and communicate what you believe. This is part of leading.
Part of being a great communicator also means being a great
listener. Get people talking about themselves, listen and ask
more questions (everyone is their own favourite topic). As you
listen and ask questions you’ll be able to lead conversations
easily and have more room to banter with hot women since you
won’t be doing all the talking.
13. Live in YOUR reality
Be unaffected by outside events. This is similar to staying
relaxed and unfazed by women’s looks or sexuality. A strong
confident male always stays cool, calm and collected.
Live in your reality and be rock solid in it. In this case, your
reality is one of abundance and being extremely secure in
yourself.
Tip: Meditation and affirmations can help ground you and
create confidence.
14. Be Comfortable in your own Skin
In continuation of being confident, it is important to be
comfortable in your own skin. This means in every regard such
as sexually, how you look, your personality, and just being self-
validated.
It’s not just about being confident or comfortable about your
strengths; it’s about being confident and comfortable with
your weaknesses and insecurities too. Thus, making them into
strengths. Anyone can be confident and show off what they
have going well for themselves, but few can brag and make jokes
about what used to be their insecurities or “weaknesses”.
For example, if you are short, tall, fat, skinny, or whatever you
think holds you back, tell yourself that it is “the hottest thing in
the world” and it will be so. Then, once you feel good about that
thing you’re insecure about start joking about it out loud as if
it were a strength. Let’s say you’re short and a girl points it out,
don’t fold, say “You have great observation skills…you might
even be worth the climb”, as you give her a smile and look her
right in the eyes.
15. Be a cause in the world not an effect
This is such an important concept that will change your life.
Basically, it’s about taking responsibility for your life, your
state and your reality instead of always blaming outside events,
circumstances or other people.
Once you accept responsibility you accept control over your
life. As Mahatma Gandhi once said, “Your beliefs become
your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words
become your actions, your actions become your habits, your
habits become your values, and your values become your
destiny.”
Tip: Here is an affirmation that has helped me over the years.
“I do everything I want with enough authority and always
get away with it. Everyone is a guest in my reality and I take
responsibility for everything. I am a cause in the world.”
16. Know a little bit about a lot
Part of having an abundant mindset and being a strong male is
having multiple skill-sets, hobbies, interests and being cultured.
Think of James Bond, he has vast skills and knowledge that he
can adapt to any situation, culture or anything. You want to be
the kind of guy that can walk into any place or any environment
and fit in.
Warning: This does NOT mean that you are a know it all or
show off what you know. It simply means that if the situation
arises you will probably have the skills to handle it confidently
and comfortably.
This doesn’t mean you pick up random hobbies or interests to
impress women but rather you have an interesting life and live
passionately. For example, traveling, dancing, martial arts or
you love camping or cars etc. It doesn’t matter.
Just know a little bit about different subjects that you are
interested in. Living with passion will make you interesting and
also, allow you to have more skills to adapt to life in general.
17. Don’t Put ALL Your Eggs in One Basket
This next part of the abundance mindset and being a strong
male can apply to every area of your life, not just dating hot
women. Never invest in a single outcome or a single woman.
This again, is in the context of when you are first starting to date
someone.
This is a big part of living in abundance; you can’t just bet it all
in one woman especially since you don’t know if this woman is
right for you yet. If for whatever reason it doesn’t work out with
one woman you are left with nothing.
Only give time, attention and energy to attractive women who
are doing the same with you. Ignore all others and move on
and only pay attention to those who pursue you. This is not
about being with a ton of women unless that’s what you want,
it is more about having options and then selecting from those
options.
As you begin to have options and become more selective you’ll
learn to walk away from any hot woman if it doesn’t suit what
you are looking for. This abundance mindset trait applies also
when a woman breaks it off with you. Don’t keep going after
her, trying to get her back and instead completely back-off/
move on.