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Teaching Urge Surfing to Clients
It is very difficult for clients to understand urge surfing unless they
have an experience of it. Even though the idea of watching cravings
come and go makes sense, it is a skill that can only be learnt through
practice.
Just as it is easier to coach someone how to kick a football, when they
are actually kicking a football is also easier to coach someone as to
how to surf urges when they are actually having urges.
We can do this in two ways. Firstly we can create a situation where
urges arise and secondly we can respond opportunistically when a
craving arises spontaneously in the presence of the therapist.

Manufacturing Opportunities for Urge Surfing.
This is not as difficult as it sounds, as there are many kinds of urges
apart from drug cravings. There are urges to scratch, to move, to eat,
to drink, to go to the toilet etc. When we reflect on this as it becomes
clear that all adults including those who consider they have hopeless
addictions have the capacity to have urges come and go without
acting on them. After all, unless we are physically ill we can all control
our need to go to the toilet!
When we sit with our back supported in a chair or on a cushion on
the floor and start mindfulness meditation, sooner or later some
sense of discomfort will arise, such as restlessness or an itch. Along
with these sensations there will be an urge to move. This is an
opportunity to practise urge surfing. So we can notice the difficult
sensations that go with this and the thoughts that arise. Instead of
acting in our normal way of trying to get rid of this unpleasant
feeling, we become curious. We become like natural scientists seeing a
strange plant or animal for the first time. We try to describe what we
are observing as closely as possible. In this way we replace an
aversion with curiosity. So we do this by noticing the physical
sensation that goes with the urge as precisely s possible.
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