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3rd Week – Mindfulness of Emotions:
by Gil Fronsdal
No Hard Feelings.
In mindfulness practice we keep our attention on the breath, unless
some other experience is so strong as to pull us away from the breath;
then we turn our attention to that other experience. One kind of
experience that can pull us away is physical sensations, which we
talked about last week; another is emotions.
No emotion is inappropriate within the field of mindfulness practice.
We are not trying to avoid emotions, or to have some kinds of
emotions and not others. We are trying to allow them to exist as they
arise, without the additional complications of judgement, evaluation,
preferences, aversion, desires, clinging, resistance or other reactions.
The Buddha once asked, "If a person is struck by an arrow, is that
painful?" Yes. The Buddha then asked, "If the person is struck by a
second arrow, is that even more painful?" Of course. He went on to
say, that as long as we are alive, we can expect painful experiences the first arrow. Often the significant suffering associated with an
emotion is not the emotion itself, but the way we relate to it. If we
condemn, judge, hate, or deny the first arrow, that is like being struck
by a second arrow. The second arrow is optional, and mindfulness
helps us avoid it.
An important part of mindfulness practice is investigating our
relationships to our emotions. Do we cling to them? Do we hate
them? Are we ashamed of them? Do we tense around them? Are we
afraid of how we are feeling? Do we measure our self-worth by the
presence or absence of an emotion? Can we simply leave an emotion
alone?

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