Innovate Issue 1 November 2019 | Page 8

CHA RACT ER ED UC AT IO N Even in such a simple interaction, the potential for misunderstanding is great. When one person asks ‘What time is it?’ they may be expecting a reply that specifies the time, and be surprised when the other person starts speaking about being held up in the staff room, or tells them not to be cheeky. Reality: Adult to Adult P A P What time is it? It’s 12:15 C A C Response: Child to Parent Misperception: Parent to Child P A You shouldn’t be late for the lesson What time is it? C P P A A C C Misperception: Child to Parent P A C What time is it? The lesson must end on time. P A What time is it? I had to talk to another member of staff C Response: Parent to Child P P A A C C Don’t be impertinent What time is it? P A C This is known as a crossed-transaction because the transaction lines run across each other rather than in parallel. In this way, plain and straightforward relations may be obscured by ulterior intentions, raising the potential for misunderstanding and establishing an obstacle to joint progress towards shared objectives. Naturally, the question ‘What time is it?’ may be used in precisely these ulterior ways – and young people learn such games from adults at an early age. This is shown by the example above, a student-teacher transaction that many will recognise. Next is another: 6