Infuse Issue 11 May 2020 - Page 16

Feel the feels. Reflect. Allow yourself to have negative feelings. Of course, people have it worse than you… but this doesn’t take away from the fact that you are allowed to be disappointed, sad, stressed, anxious and angry. Since I have allowed myself to be annoyed at the world because of my pain and dislocations, it bothers me less. I let myself have a cry, take it easy and woe for a while and even make time for it. I love Brene Brown’s saying “if you numb pain, you numb joy”, so I let myself feel and accept the pain and work through it rather than believing I have to put on a brave face for my family and the outside world. Every 90 days, I take the time to reflect on my previous 90 days. I look at aspects of my life that align with my core values (external - contribution, empowerment; internal - flexibility, freedom, growth) [yours will likely be different] and I see how I’ve gone. I look at data (business and personal) to objectively measure and track, then get some feedback from someone (can vary depending on when I do it) and then reflect on how I have felt at different times over the quarter. After doing this I journal, talk to myself to process and make a plan for the next 90 days. When I started this, I used to be way off what I could achieve, and now I know what to expect from myself and my goals are more realistic. Sometimes my goals are focussed on achievements, and sometimes they are focussed on doing less. Often I achieve nothing on my list because something will come up unexpectedly that increases my commitments, travel or one of my work channels. These can be my best quarters, and they allow me to know that even when I am uncertain, life can be great. "Allow yourself to have negative feelings. Of course, people have it worse than you… " LEARN MORE: @taradiversi taradiversi © Dietitian Connection 16 Infuse | May 2020