Infuse Issue 11 May 2020 | Page 16

Feel the feels. Reflect.
Allow yourself to have negative feelings.
Of course, people have it worse than you…
but this doesn’t take away from the fact
that you are allowed to be disappointed,
sad, stressed, anxious and angry. Since I
have allowed myself to be annoyed at the
world because of my pain and dislocations,
it bothers me less. I let myself have a cry,
take it easy and woe for a while and even
make time for it. I love Brene Brown’s saying
“if you numb pain, you numb joy”, so I let
myself feel and accept the pain and work
through it rather than believing I have to
put on a brave face for my family and the
outside world. Every 90 days, I take the time to reflect
on my previous 90 days. I look at aspects
of my life that align with my core values
(external - contribution, empowerment;
internal - flexibility, freedom, growth)
[yours will likely be different] and I see
how I’ve gone. I look at data (business and
personal) to objectively measure and track,
then get some feedback from someone
(can vary depending on when I do it) and
then reflect on how I have felt at different
times over the quarter. After doing this
I journal, talk to myself to process and
make a plan for the next 90 days. When
I started this, I used to be way off what I
could achieve, and now I know what to
expect from myself and my goals are more
realistic. Sometimes my goals are focussed
on achievements, and sometimes they are
focussed on doing less. Often I achieve
nothing on my list because something will
come up unexpectedly that increases my
commitments, travel or one of my work
channels. These can be my best quarters,
and they allow me to know that even when
I am uncertain, life can be great.
"Allow yourself
to have negative
feelings. Of course,
people have it
worse than you… "
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