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w hile watching his students having fun at a Quaker Valley High School (QVHS) dance this past fall, teacher Jason Brindza had a revelation. “The students were just part of the community,” says Brindza, a Learning Support teacher and co-sponsor of the Best Buddies program at QVHS. “They were included and welcomed in a natural way.” For him, that’s the goal of the program—to promote friendship, jobs and leadership development. The nonprofit 501(c)(3) organization is dedicated to ending the social, physical and economic isolation of the 200 million people with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD). Brindza, along with co-sponsor and QVHS Learning Support teacher Heather Barto, founded the program three years ago. “Naturally at QVHS we’ve had ‘Buddies’ in the Life Skills classroom on a small scale, but it wasn’t as many students and it wasn’t as official,” notes Brindza. “I thought it would be perfect for us.” Since then, the program has taken off. On the high school level, the program fosters friendships between students with and without IDD. Between 50 and 60 members participate in activities as a group, one-on-one, and in the community. Activities range from bowling, sensory-friendly movies, and a Sewickley Valley YMCA social, to typical teenage activities such as hanging out at a coffee shop and visiting with friends. “This year, sports was a big component and we had Buddy meetups and tailgates at some of the QVHS football games,” says Brindza. “QVHS football had an amazing season and we’ve been very proud to be part of it. The students helped out with the football team’s equipment and laundry, so it allowed us to blend those two things together—the meetups and service.” Many kids with IDD have a tough time being social on their own. MJ Crane’s son, Spencer, is a QVHS senior and a member of the Best Buddies program. “Spencer has always responded well to his ‘typical’ peers in the school setting, and getting to do ‘normal’ activities with them outside of school has made a big difference,” she explains. “He spends the majority of his free time at home with his family, and throughout the years has not been a part of many of the fun activities typical kids and teenagers Gabby Helkowski, experience.” Caitlyn McCloskey, Spencer got to Spencer Crane, Emma Moul, Tali Leckie. experience what it’s like to be a typical teen on his first solo outing with Emma Moul and Caitlyn McCloskey, both QVHS seniors who joined the program. “They went on a hike in the village,” says Crane. “It was something so simple, but something no one had asked him to do before. Since then, he’s gone for more walks, attended a hockey game, and tried roller skating. He went to a high school football tailgate and has volunteered at a local charity. And the biggest thing of Emma Moul, Spencer Crane, Caitlyn McCloskey. all was getting all dressed up for a fun night of dancing at the Best Buddies Masquerade Ball.” Emma has benefited as much as the Buddies she’s mentored. “I wanted to join Best Buddies my junior year because I thought it would be a fun club, but little did I know that it would change my life,” she says, and now she is co-president of the program. “Seeing the Buddies, my classmates and friends have so much happiness and love of life has brought so much joy to me, too. Besides making the Buddies happy and laugh, or just making fun memories with them, I love to see the parents’ reaction. These parents want to see their kids having fun, making memories, and being loved in school, too.” It’s been a similar experience for Caitlyn. “I wanted to become a Buddy so I could make a difference in my classmates’ lives and make them feel like they have a friend to talk to,” she says. “I enjoy seeing the excitement on my Buddy’s face when I say hello to him or her, or when we’re hanging out.” Crane sees the difference that Best Buddies has made in Spencer’s life. “Spencer can’t always express with words how he’s feeling, but I can see it on his face—the joy he feels being included and participating in fun activities with other kids his age,” she explains. “As a parent, that’s all you want for your child—to be accepted for who you are and to be included, to be a part of something. And as the mother of a child with special needs, I can’t express how much Best Buddies means to me.” As a Learning Support teacher who teaches life skills, Brindza feels that the Best Buddies program has been just as valuable as teaching math or any core subject. “Students with friendships and who regularly socialize become more confident as a result of the Best Buddies program,” he notes. “It positively affects their work, their behaviors and enhances their lives.” To sponsor an event, art and musical activities, exercise classes or dining experiences for the QVHS Best Buddies program, or to make a monetary donation, contact Jason Brindza at [email protected]. n SEWICKLEY ❘ SPRING 2018 15