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Helping People Move Forward with Their Lives. doctor or nurse after the appointment, most will take the minute to get back with you. This holiday season, keep in mind that routine is extremely important as we age. As excited as our parents may be to see us during the holidays, being off their regular routine can really throw them off, both mentally and physically. Allow your parent the comfort to take a nap, or to cut the evening short. Show your parent respect, but at the same time, it’s okay to let them know that you are worried about them and how that affects you. You may have to be firm and show some tough love. Some find that parents are as scared as you are about what they are experiencing. Sometimes a parent is actually waiting for an adult child to start making tough decisions for them. There may be fear, and there is often denial, and that can happen to us as adult children or to our parents as they age. Parents are trying to maintain a sense of independence and insist they can do all of the things they used to. If you hear that Dad has been up on a ladder, or Mom was on the top rung of a step stool changing a light bulb, it’s time to consider whether or not they have enough safety awareness to be home alone. Getting Mom to let a stranger in to help could be difficult, but if you truly feel she is likely to fall down those basement steps with a basket of laundry, don’t put it off! It’s important that you take care of yourself with all that you are balancing. You will be amazed at the help that is available to you, so utilize it. A good place to start could be talking with a friend who has been through it, or calling any one of the professionals who are a part of Niagara Network. They are dedicated to helping seniors, and if they don’t have an answer for you, they can put you in contact with someone who can help guide you, and even help you to embrace this “new normal” that your family is facing. So, if you are the one hosting the family gathering this year, take time to enjoy your parents no matter where they are in the aging process. Be thankful and confident that you are taking steps to greater peace of mind for both you and your parents as you make decisions that will lead them to thrive and live the best life possible! For information on Niagara Network visit niagaranetwork.net. The Niagara Network is a group of business professionals affiliated with the human services industry. If you would like to join or find out more information about the group and its members, visit the Niagara Network’s web site at http://www.NiagaraNetwork.net. Millcreek | Winter 2017 | icmags.com 61