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INDUSTRY INSIGHT FUNERAL HOME SPONSORED CONTENT A Funeral Do-Over? YES! Y our husband, father or grandfather always told you, “I don’t want any fuss when I die.” And no “fuss” was made. Now you are feeling as if you never had a chance to say goodbye. An unsatisfying funeral can have lasting negative emotions for family and friends. The funeral could have been too expensive and too elaborate. There may have been no funeral, service or memorial. There may have been few memorialization options because someone at the funeral home said, “This is how we do things here.” A pastor at the service deviated from a written program. You may not have been told that you could have had a Veteran’s Honor Guard for your Dad who served in Korea. You may have not been offered a chance for a visitation and services when Mom wanted a cremation. Can you do a funeral do-over? Yes, you can. Obviously, the body may not be present due to a previous burial or cremation. However, why not honor a wish that “Pap always wanted a party when he died.” Have the party he wanted. The timing may be delayed a bit, however, do it. We had a service for a woman’s grandmother who died in another state. Originally, there was no funeral, service or memorial. Grandma was cremated and buried. Her granddaughter never got to say goodbye in any sort of way. Having the “do-over” service was her way of dealing with her situation. More people than the granddaughter expected showed up. I was later told that her experience was cathartic. We have helped family members have an honor guard for a deserving veteran long after a burial. While the active duty members of a branch of service will not attend, we secured a veteran’s honor guard to fire volleys, play taps, fold a flag and present the flag to the next-of-kin at the cemetery. The family was so appreciative. The wife said to me, “He earned that right and deserved an honorable military funeral.” We were helping a family with a Veteran’s Service, I explained the criteria for burial in a national cemetery. Another woman at the arrangement conference asked how long after a veteran’s death can a burial for that cremated veteran take place in the national cemetery. There is no time limit for unburied remains of a veteran to be properly buried at the national cemetery. I asked if she had her deceased husband’s discharge papers (DD214). She furnished me with a copy and we were able apply for a proper burial. We ended up with a double service for both deceased Veterans. That dual burial situation was a first for the National Cemetery of the Alleghenies and for us. Giving people their options for a meaningful funeral is what we do. We can assist long after a death has occurred. Simply ask us what we can do to help your situation. A do-over might be what is needed. We can make it happen. This Industry Insight was written by Frank Perman, FD, Supervisor, CFSP, CPC, CCO, CFC. He is the owner of Perman Funeral Home and Cremation Services Inc., 923 Saxonburg Boulevard at Rt. 8 in Shaler Township. Mr. Perman believes an educated consumer makes the most personal, affordable and memorable decisions. Inquiries may be made to him at 412.486.3600 or emailed to [email protected]. Comfort In Knowing Your Wishes Will Be Handled With Care Plan does not cover medical tourism. A one-time fee of $450 provides a LIFETIME of coverage ✓ Contacting a licensed funeral home or embalming center near the place of death ✓ Transporting the deceased from the place of death to the funeral home or service center for preparation ✓ Preparation of the deceased for transport, nationally or internationally ✓ Securing all documentation for shipping including one death certificate ✓ Placing the deceased in appropriate shipping container ✓ Tender to the airport for return to the closest airport to their legal residence that is capable of receiving human remains including airfare ✓ Additional individual coverage for family members living in the same household is $425. ✓ Don’t Delay! Call Now! 412‑486‑3600 Purchase your travel plan here www.permanfuneralhome.com/travelplan Frank Perman, Supervisor HAMPTON ❘ WINTER 2018 11