IN Fox Chapel Area Winter 2017 | Page 55

INDUSTRY INSIGHT WONDERFUL REMEMBRANCES SPONSORED CONTENT A Basic Element N eil deGrasse Tyson, noted astrophysicist, said that our inner energy does not cease when we die. In cremation, the heat randomly releases that inner energy to the air. Dr. Tyson will be buried. Dr. Tyson stated that the flora and fauna of the earth have given him sustenance and energy all his life. He wants to give himself back to the earth to return the favor. How do we want our earthly remains consigned? Our choices are the earth, fire, air and water-the basic elements. Give me to the earth. We handle death by dealing with the dead. As I scrub and polish a pair of muddy shoes after a burial, it is a reminder that the graveside is a visual reminder that death is neither easy or clean. The dirt and the mud become the badges of honor. Families can choose burials in corporate cemeteries, Catholic Cemeteries, churchyard cemeteries, private family cemeteries, and privately-owned cemeteries. Military veterans, spouses and dependent children are eligible for burial in a National Cemetery. Some gravesite services have taken place under beautiful blue skies, others have had a terrible downpour and others still have had glistening white snow with boots crunching in a solemn rhythmic cadence to the grave. What every cemetery has in common is that they are a place to recollect, gather, remember and move forward. During a gravesite committal at Allegheny Cemetery in Lawrenceville, a full herd of deer were in full flight at great speed. They bounded over tombstones and markers to the wonder and amazement of the gathered family and friends. A single doe stopped for a moment, looked at the assembled group then vanished in a flash. During a burial for an Air Force veteran, while the bagpiper played Taps, an Air Force C-130 Hercules Turboprop flew directly over the grave. The airplane was about 500 feet off the deck. It was loud, fast and totally unexpected. During a burial at the National Cemetery of the Alleghenies, there were numerous fire trucks, squad trucks, ambulances and police vehicles. They simultaneously sounded their sirens and airhorns in one last outstanding tribute to a fallen volunteer firefighter. Families have seen butterflies alighting on the headstone and cardinals landing in trees and shrubs near the grave. Imagine a single beam of sunshine break through threatening dark clouds to shine directly onto the open grave then quickly disappear after the casket was lowered into the ground. This Industry Insight was written by Frank Perman, FD, Supervisor, CFSP, CPC, CCO, CFC. He is the owner of Perman Funeral Home and Cremation Services Inc., 923 Saxonburg Boulevard at Rt. 8 in Shaler Township. Mr. Perman believes an educated consumer makes the most personal, affordable and memorable decisions. Inquiries may be made to him at 412.486.3600 or emailed to [email protected]. The reverberating volley of a twenty-one-gun salute from an honor guard causes an involuntary shudder and ringing in the ears. The solemn playing of Taps echoes while a cold biting wind roared through bundled winter coats. These mo