IMBO Magazine Nov. 2014 | Page 70

LIFE SKILLS Shut up and Listen! In the wise words of Mark Twain, “If we were supposed to talk more than we listen, we would have two tongues and one ear.” I t’s a simple exercise. All you have to do is play your part. I mean, if we’re having a conversation and I’m the one talking – it only makes sense if you listen. Don’t just hear me out. Listen to what I’m saying. Pay attention to how I’m conveying it, so you can have a holistic understanding of the message. It’s an art they say. And they’re absolutely right. It is said in the unwritten laws of Ubuntu, “I am because we are. Because we are, therefore I am”. This substantiates the fact that we’re interdependent, while bringing to the surface our need to collaborate. And, of course, implying how our prosperity as a collective lies in the amount of respect, patience and understanding we have for each other. As we all know (or at least should know by now) humans are social beings. And with that in mind, deciphering the significant role communication plays in our fundamental existence should be fairly remote from grasping the theories of quantum physics. People need other people, not only as a shoulder to lean on or a stepping-stone towards success. We need each other to survive. Essentially, improved listening skills don’t only enhance communication, they strengthen relationships and can ultimately improve one’s life. While, on the contrary, failing to listen properly can lead to misunderstanding and eventually conflict. So how do we make sure you know exactly what to do when you flip this page and move on with life? - We have to expose you to the different aspects of communication. IMBO/ ISSUE 31/ '14 70