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“We won an artistic grant for $5,000 from the city of Sedona when The MENding was first getting started. We used that funding to put on a series of shows where both men and women worked together and wrote pieces about these issues,” said Dujardin. Today, 20 percent of the pieces are written by and for women, or other gender identifications, and some shows are split evenly as men and women. Dujardin says the work is moving away from monologues to dialogues. Last year, the script was used as an interdisciplinary teaching tool for a writing curriculum at Hostos Community College in the Bronx, NY, which was part of City Univer- sity New York (CUNY). Students not only watched performances of The MENding, they also analyzes pieces and wrote essays about the work, and were challenged to write their own monologues. “That really blew me away,” said Dujardin. “I was like ‘Re- ally, you’re going to study this work, like literature, for a whole quarter?’ It was highly validating and to be honest, a little intimidating. I never intended for it to become literature, just an outlet for the truth.” Another landmark show was performed in Nairobi, Kenya using prominent film and stage actors from Kenya in 2015. The director Mbeki Mwalimu, said at one point during the performance, the entire cast was cry- ing together on stage. After that show, the cast was invited to perform at U.S. Embassy in Kenya. That same year, The MENding Monologues made its European premier at Maynooth Uni- Monologues at USC San Diego. versity in Ireland, thanks to the help of an exchange student who had been part of a co-ed production at Califor- nia State University Monterey Bay. In the United States, InnerMis- sions Productions in San Diego, CA will mark their eleventh year staging The MENding Monologues. Director and producer Carla Nell and Kym Pappas were among the first outside of Sedona to recognize the potential of the show to harness voices of men to speak out against gender violence as part of San Diego’s annual V- Day and One Billion Rising events. “There’s an entire community that has grown around The MENding and The Vagina Monologues in San Diego,” said Dujardin. “The men sup- port the women and women sup- port the men. I even know of at least one couple that met through this work and later married.” In 2017, the veteran writers and directors from InnerMission production volun- teered to mentor a new MENding One of the favorite and most often performed pieces is called “Tantra.” Written by Derek Dujardin and based his own experience with sexual shame and tantric practices, it explores how concept of merging sexuality and spirituality together is a completely foreign concept for most Western men and women. Yet, that union between, what he calls, “the hot and the holy” may be one of those key ingredients missing for more healthy sexual identity. By adding a spiritual component to sex during their upbringing, boys could develop into men who have a more positive attitude towards sex, and perhaps counter both the sexual shame and “pornification” of sex that pervades our masculine culture today. While The MENding Monologues does have a social agenda, each piece has enough artistic merit to stand on its own two feet in the theatrical world. Even without the cause behind it, these are simply great stories, ex- pertly written and told. While no MENding Monologues productions are schedule for Se- dona, AZ this year, you can watch past shows and clips online at www. themending.org or by visiting You- Tube and searching “Derek Dujardin” or “The MENding Monologues.” As a writer, speaker and performer, Derek Dujar- din is on the forefront of a new theater movement that helps men find their voice and speak out against violence. In the process, he is helping countless men and women heal by getting in touch with what the true cost of violence is to their relationships. Visit: themending.org IMAGINE l Fall 2018 11