IJGA Newsletter: The Oaks October 2019 | Page 12

BRIGHT FUTURES: PARENTING THE MODERN-DAY STUDENT-ATHLETE By Skylar Jewel IJGA Director of Mental Performance / Character Mentor importantly, how can we encourage a positive mental health environment while encouraging long-term growth? BRIGHT FUTURES: PARENTING THE MODERN-DAY STUDENT- ATHLETE Rather than strictly comparing and contrasting these styles, let’s more importantly understand the number one influencer for long-term sport participation: FUN. As a parent, providing the very best for your child has come under intense scrutiny. It often seems that no matter what has transpired, there is a downside or a “better way” that has just been discovered. This has been particularly prevalent in the junior sporting world where “parenting” has become a hot button issue. So how does a parent support their child while providing for their future in sports? Have you heard any of these parenting terms: Helicopter Parents, Tiger Mom, Free-Range Parenting, Instinctive Parenting, Authoritative Parenting, Authoritarian Parenting. These are just a few of the many parenting styles in today’s society. While a core four to five parenting styles remain the focus of research, there have been many different versions of these styles which have emerged under speculation. Which style has the greatest influence on sports performance? Most 12 It has been quantified that in the early stages of sports participation that a “FUN” learning experience is a foundational key element to healthy and lasting sports participation. Use the following steps to make sure you develop the enjoyment FIRST: EFFORT RATHER THAN RESULTS Encourage the effort towards long-term goals and aspirations, rather than the short-term results. Growth and development are the primary focus! Help your child to compare themselves to their yesterday, not somebody else’s today There a many different starting points and rates of development, it is important to remain focused on their own journey, not someone else’s. Progress, no matter how small, is still progress.