IJGA Newsletter: The Oaks June 2019 | Page 2

MEMORIES MADE, LESSONS LEARNED BY SKYLAR JEWELL IJGA DIRECTOR OF MENTAL PERFORMANCE / CHARACTER MENTOR Wow! Where has the spring season gone? Seems to fly by when learning and having fun. Before you know it, we will be well into the summer with only memories left of the semester that has passed. What memories will you have made? What lessons have you learned? Time will be the ultimate storyteller, so what role are you going to play? For many amateurs being lessons learned allows for a clear plan and even motivation. Take Rory McIlroy for example, in the 2011 Masters he held the lead at (-11) before melting on the back nine to shoot 8 over on the final day and finish at (-4). Following this he took an interview and instead of berating his game he took ownership, acknowledging the pain of not having achieved his goal, but said there are many lessons to learn in the coming days as he takes his time to reflect. Later that year he won the US Open by 8 Strokes! Crediting his Master’s experience as a learning moment that gave him the confidence that he knew he could be a major champion. This has happened with numerous golfers and happens more often to those who adapt and learn faster. You will always have two choices in golf, to learn or to remain the same. You will also always have the opportunity to count yourself in or count yourself out. Which do you do more of personally? Embracing disappointment is a true reflection of motivation and learning. We are here to help and guide you, please reach out if you think this is an area you could be better in or for anything else you may need. disappointed means being upset. For the best it means an opportunity and even motivation. Disappointment, though it does not feel great, provides all the valuable lessons needed to improve for the next attempt. When you see someone deal with disappointment by being frustrated and artificially feeling better, often this approach doesn’t lead to learning. On the other hand being honest to the moment, and identifying the critical 2 Congratulations to all those who have committed to learning and had a successful last few months, it is never too late to begin making progress. Keep taking committed actions, learning, and let’s finish the summer strong! All my best, -Skylar Jewell