“And obey Allah and His Messenger, and do not dispute
(with one another) lest you lose courage and your
strength depart, and be patient. Surely, Allah is with
those who are As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).”
[Qur’an: Chapter 8, Verse 46]
If you realize you are already in a dispute, be wise and
argue with that which is better. Allah (SWT) says:
“And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel
[evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon
the one whom between you and him is enmity [will
become] as though he was a devoted friend.” [Qur’an:
Chapter 41, Verse 34]
Teach at every opportunity:
The Prophet (SAW) used every chance to enjoin the
good and forbid the evil. If there is ever a need for you
to say something corrective in nature, do so gently.
Refrain from the common evils of the tongue:
People getting together and communicating with each
other often leads to falling into various sins related to
the tongue such as talking about Allah (SWT) without
knowledge, slandering, lying, insulting and cursing.
These habits are grievous sins that eat away at our
rewards and the barakah in our lives: make it a habit
to ensure whether anything you are about to say may
constitute any of these sins. And, if you were to indulge
in joking, let the jokes be true. The Prophet (SAW) said:
“A slave (of Allah) may utter a word which pleases
Allah without giving it much importance, and because
of that Allah will raise him to degrees (of reward): a
slave (of Allah) may utter a word (carelessly) which
displeases Allah without thinking of its gravity and
because of that he will be thrown into the Hell-Fire.”
[Sahih al-Bukhari]
Choose simple, concise words:
Avoid complex language and sophisticated
terminologies. Instead, try to stick to concise words and
phrases that are of eloquence and seek to be understood.
The Prophet (SAW) said:
“I have been given superiority over the other prophets
in six respects: I have been given words which are
concise but comprehensive in meaning” […] [Sahih
Muslim].
If you find the argument going nowhere positive, stop
before you get angry, smile and retreat after trying your
best to reconcile for when a man said to the Prophet
(SAW)
“Advise me,” he said: “Do not get angry.” He repeated
his question several times and again the Prophet (SAW)
said: “Do not get angry.” [Bukhari]
End with the greeting:
Before departing, smile, shake hands and greet people
warmly with the salam.
In writing, start with Allah’s Name :
If you were to communicate in writing, in addition to
the points above that are relevant, it is desirable to
start your written communication with ‘Bismillaahir
Rahmaanir Raheem’ [In the name of Allah, the
Continuously Merciful, the Especially Merciful]. This
was done by the Prophet (SAW) numerous times when
he dispatched letters to kings and heads of peoples and
tribes.
Here’s a verse to further motivate you to communicate
the sunnah way:
“Whoever comes [on the Day of Judgement] with a
good deed will have ten times the like thereof [to his
credit], and whoever comes with an evil deed will not
be recompensed except the like thereof; and they
will not be wronged.” [Qur’an: Chapter 6, Verse 160]
WRITTTEN BY: Noorul Irfana Mashooq Rahman
s ource: productivemuslim.com
He (SAW) spoke with clarity and made people
comprehend easily, sometimes by even repeating his
words thrice.
Stay away from argumentation:
Being nice is easy when you’re dealing with nice people.
But, practically speaking, this world has more to it than
such people. Despite your best efforts, you are bound
to walk into not-so-nice people. Try not to fall into
disputes and argumentation.
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