If and Only If: A Journal of Body Image and Eating Disorders Winter 2015 | Page 96

Jamie J. Barker

Terrible Hair

“We have terrible hair,” she said to me

at bottle feedings and christenings

and in those mirrored rooms where

training bras and wedding gowns are chosen.

“Look at her hair,” my mother said

when thick bobs bounced by or

a swell of curls fell down a girl’s back.

“We have terrible hair.”

Our mother sat us at the kitchen table.

She placed a strip of scotch tape along

the bottom of our bangs. “Hold still,”

she said, and snipped a straight line

“You have terrible hair.”

My sisters and I draped dishtowels

over our heads and tossed them

like the girls with the good hair.

We combed the long hair of our dolls

and let the strands run through our fingers.

In the car we held Barbie out the window

and watched her long tresses fly in the wind.

But wasn’t there an autumn day

when the light was thick with gold?

We walked on downtown’s mall

properly dressed in black Mary Jane’s,

and in a window I saw a shimmer.

Silky fine hair with a honey hue

flapping lightly like ribbons

in the October sun.