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probably they themselves were that way once and were dragged into this death well, and as a remuneration or blind vengeance, are dragging other souls into it, just to not be the victim alone.( somehow, this desire of companionship or having people in the same boat has harmed us real bad, than done us equal good)
Men at large tend to do this. Because women are by default considered weak, they tend to capitalise on this perception to save their neck and to prove themselves or their‘ manlihood’ in front of other men even if they don’ t believe in it and hence help in propagating
1. Stereotypes and
2. This whole taking advantage of and putting pressure on otherwise so called physically liable but happy‘ humans’, both men and women.
Hence, women at large end up despising such men( men in general), because ultimately they’ re at the receiving end of this. Hence the notion that women aspiring for equality hate men.
But a lot of women bear with that, and still stand by such men, either because they love them more than righteousness or because they think that it’ s normal and that is how everybody does or because they think that that’ s how men are. Such women are the ones, whom we call stereotypical( in today’ s world of an awakening).
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With the feminist and‘ let’ s break stereotypes’ movement, as more and more women realise the importance of their identity and their dignity as well, we can come to hear of stories where women left the men whom they loved because they( the men) were stereotypical. Or, if it was a happy ending, the men chose to change. Or, if it was a happy beginning, the‘ popularly eligible’ woman chose such an exceptional and unconventionally( because he was chosen for his ideals, despite the fact that he was probably not‘ popularly most eligible’) chosen man to begin with. If men had the courage and strength to come out of this vicious circle, everybody would suffer less. Probably.
Here, we’ re missing out those women who also do such things. But, because they’ re women, they get away under the garb of being at the receiving end or being sufferers in general. Hence, the question of trust on women who are involved in the so called feminist movement, because they might actually just be hypocrites again capitalising on the scenario and being not very different from men who do such things. They’ re the ones because of whom the entire fraternity and the movement suffers.
I, to tell you very honestly, find myself to be a victim of this pressure to prove. When I drive, I cringe at every little normal mistake that I
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make because I take it on my gender. I fear, that people will not attribute it to my individual different capability but will jump to label my entire gender. So much pressure, right? Alternatively, if a boy makes a similar mistake, the attribution is made only to him, individually. Ergo, men are looked at individually when it comes to picking on one’ s incompetence, whereas women still go as a tribe
But yes, guys also have to bear the pressure of being tagged as not‘ the men’ and being pushed into this vulnerable‘ not the men’ category.
Ultimately, it probably will come down to Darwin’ s‘ curse in disguise’ words of‘ survival of the fittest’, with the fittest blurring into nasty and despotic. Fittest does not see ethics. Fittest, they say is that lucifer, who was once not the fittest, who was vulnerable( I’ m using this word for the 10th time now, I guess), happy and nice and human, but was pushed to become the horrible, the despised, emotionally indurated and far from being human, fittest.
Naba Farooqui 3115, Batch of‘ 14
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