EBONY: The BEST part is getting the opportunity to grow and reach goals together! We are definitely not the same two people we were dating. We aren't even the same people we were when we got married. We have learned to communicate, set up game plans, and celebrate each other's strengths over the years making us one heck of a team! Our family is too active (football, martial arts, jobs , etc) to have any wires crossed. I look forward to seeing our kids reap the harvest of our constant hustle! I am very independent. Been on my own since a teenager. HARDEST thing for me was finding that Happy medium between being a servant wife that feels secure within herself to let my husband be the leader, king of household that he is and being the hard head I can handle. I am a don't need anybody type of person I had to be my whole life.