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COURTESY OF MICHAEL CASTELLANA HEALING Further into the sessions, group members are encouraged to do community service, and to practice acts of kindness. “One of the consequences of moral injury is selfisolation,” said Amidon. “The idea here is for them to begin to recognize the goodness in themselves, and to reinforce their sense of being accepted in the community.” Toward the end of the eight weeks, group members are invited to write a letter to themselves from a benevolent figure in their lives — a spouse, or grandfather, or mentor — to explain how they feel and to imagine what this person would say in response. “What is really healing,” Amidon said, “is to hear, whether it’s in this imagined conversation or with the others, someone sharing really shameful experiences and having people accept them — saying, ‘Yeah, that was fucked up, what you did, and remember all the good things you’ve done. This doesn’t have to define the rest of your life.’” One participant, now 33, struggles with the guilt of having killed the wrong person. “My big thing was taking another man’s life and finding out later on that wasn’t who you were supposed to shoot,” he told me, asking not to be identified HUFFINGTON 03.16-23.14 “As terrible as some of this stuff is — and sometimes what we hear makes your toes curl — what I see in these people is incredible goodness. Their efforts to punish themselves is just further evidence of their goodness.” because of his continuing psychological treatment. “The [troops] out there, they don’t talk about it. They act like it never happened. Completely don’t ever bring it up.” But in the San Diego moral injury program, he did summon the courage to stand up and talk about it. “Just saying it was helpful,” he said later. “There were about five Michael Castellana, a staff psychotherapist and co-facilitator of the San Diego moral injury repair group.