Huffington Magazine Issue 90 | Page 40

BIG LOVE Century looking for religious freedom in the face of persecution. Until Shelby’s decision, however, she’d never imagined she’d make her own public stand for freedom and acceptance. It was a role that would take some getting used to. “AFTER LAST NIGHT, I don’t fit in anywhere,” Sally said the morning after the January party. “I’m not angry at the church, but I don’t fit in there, and I didn’t fit in last night.” She sat in a faded armchair in her living room, one leg stretched out on an ottoman, the other curled beneath her. Brenda, a lapsed Catholic from a Mexican-American family, sat on the couch, drinking coffee. The two made a contrasting pair. Where Brenda is tall and striking and has a bit of sarcastic edge, Sally has a round, soft face and a warm demeanor. Speaking in the honeyed tones of her native Georgia, Sally recounted her reaction to the sight of a lesbian party guest wearing a man’s button-down shirt and a boyish haircut. “I’m like, ‘Oh, that’s a woman?” “I’m not going to hate on lesbians,” Brenda replied. “I don’t care what they look like.” HUFFINGTON 03.09.14 “I know that it’s wrong of me to judge people,” Sally consented. Brenda had to smile at this. “I feel pretty comfortable with people being different,” she said. “You kind of have a hard time with that.” It’s a difficulty many Mormons seem to face. As Lawrence Wright She found herself at a precarious juncture, staring ahead at the unknown territory of the gay-rights movement while trying to stay close to the familiar guideposts of her Mormon past. wrote in a 2002 New Yorker article exploring the religion’s troubled legacy, “The paradox of Mormonism is that a faith with such an embattled history has fostered a community whose members are ostensibly so conventional.” The recent developments on marriage have thrown this paradox into sharp relief. In the words of Patrick Q. Mason, the head of Mormon Studies at Claremont Graduate University, in California, the church’s stance against same-sex marriage reflects “a widespread historical amnesia