Huffington Magazine Issue 85 | Page 32

Voices about. Sometimes, during a couple days every month in particular, I want to spend some time lying on the floor and feeling like there must be something terribly wrong with me. I am at the point in my life where I no longer know another person in my shoes. I could count on my friend Colleen for a long time, but then she had to go and get a pseudo-boyfriend last year. I couldn’t believe that. It was almost like she wasn’t thinking about how her relationship would affect me. Most of the time it does not upset me to think about my sad, old, decrepit spinster body. Obviously there are about one trillion things that could be worse about my life. Not having a boyfriend at any given moment bothers me very little. Not having ever had one bothers me only slightly more, only because I want to know that I’ll get to fall in love at least once, for real. Not in the way I’m used to, which involves one-sided daydreaming prolonged over embarrassing lengths of time, projected onto boys and men (and Boyz II Men) who either don’t know me at all, or who know me but don’t exactly like-like me. I’m getting too old for that. At least that’s what I keep trying to tell myself, right after the latest episode of me acting like KATIE HEANEY HUFFINGTON 01.26.14 some extra-tall preteen with a Justin Bieber problem has passed. It makes me feel good to know, though, that I am not alone in every way. Even if I’m the only permanen