Huffington Magazine Issue 83 | Page 49

LOST BOY his speech. They brought toys and forms to fill out. As Maya recalls, they came, sat on the living room floor, stayed for an hour and left. By the time Max turned 2, his speech delay became more worrisome. Max attended a daycare operated by a Spanish-speaking woman, so his parents assumed that was the cause. More evaluators checked him out, but none offered a diagnosis. Max would walk around the house carrying random objects like plastic knives, hammers or drumsticks. “We thought he was just a quirky kid,” Maya recalls. And besides, a speech delay had an unexpected benefit: D.C. would provide him with free preschool earlier. At 2 years old, Maya and Greg took Max to Walker-Jones Elementary School to be formally evaluated. Six professionals worked with Max, who started climbing bookshelves and screaming and crying. Then a therapist started hitting Max on the back rhythmically. She squeezed him from behind and picked him up, then dropped him to the floor so that his feet hit the ground hard. He calmed down. “I was just blown away that someone knew what to do to make my child shut HUFFINGTON 01.12.14 down,” Maya says, “in a good way.” For the next few months, Maya and Greg waited, checking the mail for the letter from the district that would explain Max’s speech problems. Instead, on Oct. 28, 2010, they got an email. Maya burst into tears. Greg did not believe the diagnosis. Max had severe autism and ADHD. “It’s like being told you have AIDS in an email,” he says. For a few weeks, they mourned the death of the son they thought they would have. What makes the episode so tough to comprehend was that, compared with his present state, Max was talking then. In video footage compiled by Greg to argue that while with DCPS, Max “has regressed to the point where he can barely speak,” Max was developing language skills when he was younger. In a scene shot in 2010, Max is in pajamas next to his little sister, Delilah, then an infant. From off-camera, Maya says, “Say, ‘I love you, baby.’” After a few tries Max says, “Ayaya beebee.” A later clip shows him speaking more clearly, yelling, “Mommy’s shoes!” while dancing in them. But a few years later, he could not repeat any of those phrases. When asked to name a hammer, he jumped up and down and put the hammer in his mouth.