Voices
or regretful about what we lack.
It’s a small, significant shift in
perspective. It’s easier to look at
what’s wrong or missing in our
lives and believe that is the big
picture — but it isn’t. We can
choose to let the beautiful parts
set the tone.
3. LOOK AT THE STARS.
It won’t fix the economy. It won’t
stop wars. It won’t give you flat
abs, or better sex or even help you
figure out your relationship and
what you want to do with your
life. But it’s important. It helps
you remember that you and your
problems are both infinitesimally
small and conversely, that you
are a piece of an amazing and vast
universe. I do it daily — it helps.
4. LET PEOPLE IN.
Truly. Tell people that you trust
when you need help, or you’re
depressed — or you’re happy and
you want to share it with them.
Acknowledge that you care about
them and let yourself feel it. Instead of doing that other thing we
sometimes do, which is to play it
cool and pretend we only care as
much as the other person has admitted to caring, and only open up
half way. Go all in — it’s worth it.
KATE
BARTOLOTTA
HUFFINGTON
10.06.13
5. STOP WITH THE CRAZY MAKING.
I got to a friend’s doorstep the
other day, slightly breathless
and nearly in tears after getting a
little lost, physically and existentially. She asked what was wrong
and I started to explain and then
stopped myself and admitted,
“I’m being stupid and have decided to invent lots of problems
in my head.” Life is full of ob-
I will be happy when
I have a new car. I will be
happy when I get married.
I will be happy when I
get a better job. I will be
happy when I lose five
pounds. What if instead
we choose to be happy
— right now?”
stacles; we don’t need to create
extra ones. A great corollary to
this one is from The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz: Don’t
take things personally. Most of
the time, other people’s choices
and attitudes have absolutely
nothing to do with you. Unless
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