Huffington Magazine Issue 66 | Page 46

HUFFINGTON 09.15.13 WILLIAM B. PLOWMAN/NBC/NBC NEWSWIRE/GETTY IMAGES THE BIG QUESTIONS Institute of Technology clinical psychologist Sherry Turkle, who studies the impact of technology on social relations, examined how hyperconnected-ness has created relationships where we have the “illusion of companionship” without the “demands of friendship.” In other words, we are moving toward a way of life that discourages the kinds of conversations that defined and sustained Cherkasova and Kornilov’s friendship. “We have stripped away so many of the conditions that make conversations like these flourish. And the condition that makes it flourish, in many cases, is the uninterrupted full attention to each other,” said Turkle, who has spent the three years interviewing dozens of people from various walks of life about what they talk about with friends and how they do it for an upcoming book called Reclaiming Conversation. “These conversations are what college students are missing, they’re what people at work are missing, they’re what we’re all missing.” In the midst of this shift, the American university system remains an oasis of sorts, a place where the Big Questions are freely and fiercely debated — in no small “... WE NO LONGER HAVE THAT KIND OF GROUP OF WRITERS WIDELY DISCUSSING HOW YOU MEASURE ­—ANew LIFE. ” York Times columnist David Brooks part because many students are not yet dealing with the pressures of work and family. But there’s a shift on American campuses, too. Just seven percent of graduates major in the humanities, like philosophy and literature, while majors in largely career-oriented fields have increased as more