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Exit LIFESTYLE HUFFINGTON 09.01-08.13 them feel more connected and focused, Resnick Anderson said. YOU HAVE ‘THE MOMENT’ No, not an orgasm, but that moment — seconds or minutes after sex begins — when you just somehow know how the rest of the encounter is going to play out for you, good, bad or otherwise. “When I mention it to women, they say, ‘How did you know?’” said Kimberly Resnick Anderson, director of the Summa Center for Sexual Health in Ohio. When it comes to sex, women often start in a state of “sexual neutrality,” she explained. “Sometimes, you start engaging in sexual activity and right away, you think, ‘This is going to work.’” Other times, you sense that what’s coming next will be nice, or fun, but that you won’t quite get there. Women are pretty intuitive about whether they’re going to be able to achieve orgasm, Resnick Anderson said. YOU FEEL LIKE PEEING “If during certain sexual positions, like doggie-style, you [have] a need-to-pee feeling, it’s completely normal,” said Amy Levine, a sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure. “Those sensations are usually from G-spot stimulation, which can lead to female ejaculation. Ejaculate comes out of the urethra and is clear and odorless.” That said, it is entirely possible — and not atypical — for women to pee and orgasm at the same time. Some women find they pee a little when they laugh, sneeze or orgasm, Women are pretty intuitive about whether they’re going to be able to achieve orgasm.” particularly after giving birth. It’s also easy to confuse the feeling of an impending orgasm with the urge to pee. “Women who do not experience urinary incontinence at other times, but feel the urge to pee when approaching orgasm, may be getting confusing messages from very sensitive parts of their bodies,” Go Ask Alice explains. If fears about going to the bathroom during sex are going to hold you back in any way, Levine recommends simply going before you get started. YOU SCREAM Sure, there’s often a performance aspect to screaming during sex. A small 2011 study (focusing solely on