Huffington Magazine Issue 64-65 | Page 70

HUFFINGTON 09.01-08.13 INVISIBLE CASUALTIES Mike spent several days in a civilian mental health care hospital, and doctors began trying different medications to calm him down while also trying to keep him alert enough to work. Nothing helped. At one point months later, Mike dug out a refrigerator magnet he’d been given with the phone number of Army OneSource, a portal for medical, mental health and family support resources. He dialed the number and eventually was put in touch with a civilian psychiatrist. But he felt she had no experience with the military or an understanding of military culture, and after a while Mike stopped seeing her. His first brush with suicide had come earlier that year, in the spring of 2005. Jackie discovered Mike had lost his ability to manage money; he’d been on thousand-dollar shopping sprees at Target, bringing home “junk.” She took away his checkbook and credit cards. His angry outbursts continued. He was back with his National Guard company once a month, but found he could no longer lead his men. He’d stand in front of them without being able to think what to do or say. “I didn’t own up to the fact that “... there was no system to help the macho soldier who’s not going to do anything unless he’s bleeding out.” something was wrong with me, and ask ‘em to check me out and get medicaled out,” he said, referring to the process of getting a medical separation from the Guard. Ashamed, he resigned his commission, “the hardest thing I have ever had to do.” At work, he found his hands trembled so hard it was dangerous for him to handle 14,000-volt power lines. He was given other duties. Once a happy, popular and fast-moving lineman, now he was a shadow of his former self. He had disabling anxiety attacks. “Where’s the old Mike?” his bosses would ask him. “We want the old Mike back!” Eventually he was fired, ashamed and terrified to tell Jackie he had failed again. SCREW RESPECT The McMichaels’ house in rural Franklinville, along the banks ★