Huffington Magazine Issue 54 | Page 76

Exit roles, I attempt to help people. In all I do, I’m a teacher, cheering people on as they learn the most important skills and lessons that make life worth living. We’re all worth loving, even on our worst days, and I try to help people focus on what’s most important so each day gets a little better. But what I forgot, as I tried to serve others, is I need help, too. Working 60 hours, often more, each week, I used entire pizzas rather than a walk to calm down. I chose wine, in my fatigue and frustration, over the very techniques I speak and write about. The wine wasn’t the problem; the problem is that I kept my stress at such a high level all the time that no amount of wine allowed me to truly slow my brain down. Then I stepped on the scale. Why did I let myself stay so stressed for so long? I forgot the most important lesson about stress. It is not a bad thing. It comes from our brain when we’re not seeing something important we need to pay attention to. What was I ignoring? The best teachers and coaches are always learning. I spent so much time helping others that I forgot to make time to explore new lessons STRESS LESS HUFFINGTON 06.23.13 and learn new skills. Every day is a priceless moment to savor a beautiful world. I wasn’t recharging my body and brain so that I’d have enough energy to enjoy my work and my life. We each can reduce stress when we figure out what our brains are When at 38, my doctor asked, ‘You’ve been in shape before, right?’ and I couldn’t remember when, it should have been a clue.” trying to tell us. We all have more power than we realize to improve our lives each moment. Sixteen weeks after stepping on the scale, I’m down 19 pounds. I’m still screwing up most weeks, but not as often. I’m still trying to do too much without first recharging, but now I let stress teach me when I need to step back. Now I realize and I continue to learn: Even the stressful moments are precious. Jon Wortmann is a mental coach and author of Hijacked by Your Brain: How to Free Yourself When Stress Takes Over.