Huffington Magazine Issue 51 | Page 37

VOICES Susan Mercandetti THE THIRD METRIC HUFFINGTON 06.02.13 MAARTJE VAN CASPEL/ GETTY IMAGES When Success Isn’t What You Thought It Would Be HAVE SUFFERED whiplash over the decades, having changed so sharply my definition of success. But, if I know anything, I know that success — along with life — is sequential. In my 20s, so consumed with ambition and possibility, success, I to me, meant a salary. It meant not relying on my cash-strapped parents for help. And, if I just worked harder than everyone else, I deduced, sheer drive would trump the Ivy League degrees with which I competed — an ideal which sometimes had its shortcomings. Success also meant landing the “it” job of college dreams. So, in those two regards, I was success-