Huffington Magazine Issue 51 | Page 33

HUFFINGTON 06.02.13 THE THIRD METRIC mire. I considered getting a T-shirt with the words typed out across my chest. I wondered at the time what it was that made me “somewhat aspirational.” Maybe it was that I had written a great deal about the challenges professional women face, both at home and at work — and revealed my own failures along the way (including a sleep-deprived tumble down a flight of stairs that left my 4-month-old in a cast) — perhaps that made me more approachable. Or could it be simply that I was at the end of a 16-hour day and had swooped in to bail out Leeza. Maybe my vulnerability was raw and apparent. Maybe it was that. Since then, I have dug deeper and defined the label myself. I was only “somewhat aspirational” because, while I had accomplished so much, I had yet to begin to crack the code on the Third Metric. I’m talking about questions many women are left with when they achieve financial security, gain power or success — or all three at once. Here are the questions. Think about them for yourself: What about me? When do I sleep? Am I happy? Am I mentally healthy? Am I physically healthy? Am I giving back? Am I remembering where I came from? What about my friendships? My answers to those questions were “maybe” or “no” or “I DON’T HAVE TIME TO THINK ABOUT I make sleep a priority. I think every woman should sleep her way to the top.” IT!” I now more than “somewhat” aspire to figure out the Third Metric. I have to. I have two daughters, and I truly believe we can do better. Arianna Huffington and I have set out to find it, with the help of some incredible women, and a few good men, too. A few years ago, I noticed Arianna on the set of Morning Joe, and she looked especially rested for six in the morning. She told me she had slept seven hours, even though she had to get up at 4 a.m. for the show. How was that possible? “I make sleep a priority,” she told