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HUFFINGTON 01.20.13 THE VIRTUAL CEMETERY own postings and “likes” of others’ words. She says she doesn’t think Dowdell would mind. He loved being online. It’s how he met new friends and kept in touch with old ones. “I remember saying to him once, ‘You know, everything on Facebook stays on Facebook. It’s not going to go away or disappear.’ That’s how he felt,” says Moore. Some would rather that not be the case. COURTESY OF ROHAN AURORA NO CHECKBOX FOR DEATH In early August, Rohan Aurora, a 24-year-old biomedical engineering student and technology blogger who attends the University of Southern California, was on Facebook, reading news about friends back home in New Delhi, India. The routine is common and deeply important for Aurora. He posts photos and updates of his life — announcements of internships and photos of mountain-climbing adventures — and friends comment on them, while he does the same for them. One friend from high school, Lalit Mendhe, had a photo posted on his Facebook page of himself in a hospital bed. He didn’t look so bad, Aurora thought. “It didn’t seem like he was very uncomfortable.” So he made a quip on his wall, hoping to cheer up a friend stuck in the hospital, whatever the cause may have been. “He had a habit of keeping long hair, so I wrote under the photo, ‘Did you get a haircut?’” said Aurora. Not long after, he got a message in his inbox from another one of Mendhe’s friends. Mendhe, 23, 24-yearold Rohan Aurora (left) corresponds with his friend, Lalit Mendhe, on Facebook (right), prior to Mendhe’s death.