How to Coach Yourself and Others Techniques For Coaching | Page 538

useless? You see, the consequences of this would be that I
would be unable to help you. I'd like to, but the nature of this
work is that I can't help everyone. Sometimes I fail. However,
can you afford to fail? How much longer do you want to carry
this burden?
When to use the Head-On Collision?
This intervention is used with highly resistant clients when the
patient is face to face with his or her most self defeating defence
mechanisms as they are operating in the therapeutic relationship
at that moment.
What does it look like?
The therapist at that moment highlights the nature of
the defences, the destructive effects of the defences, how the
defences have killed prior efforts to be close, the potential they
could overcome the defences, the good outcome that would
follow. The therapist also highlights the decision is up to
the client, that victory over the defences is the client's and
couples this with encouragement for the client to do the best
thing for his or herself, family and future.
How does it help the client?
This renders the defences "dystonic" or optimally hated by the
client. He