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3.51 IMMEDIACY
Coachees can ramble on or get lost in details, since you are a
person who is showing genuine interest in them and who is
prepared to listen. The coachee can also be glad to finally get it of
his chest. Now it's not about how much the coachee tells you but
what he tells you, so that you can help him gain insight in the
causes of his problem and why things have not been resolved so
far.
With immediacy, you help coachees distance themselves from
whatever happened in the past and to concentrate on the
present, on what is going on right now. It also serves to address
information from the story in order to help coachees become
aware of certain patterns, that show in the discussion with you
as well. The purpose is to clear away hurdles that have formed
because the coachee is not sufficiently aware of his current
situation or avoids certain truths, that by using this technique
can be boldly exposed, as it were.
Those IT guys really are in control. Boys barely twenty years old
are leading the company. Did I work thirty years to be treated
like this? I sacrificed everything for the good of the company and
what do I get...? On top of everything I have to learn how to send
an email. We used to have typists to do all the administrative
work and now I have to do it myself, me being the manager. No
way!
It must be hard to discover that some people can do certain
things better than you. What is keeping you from hiring a
girl who is good with computers and who can write your
emails and with any luck, might teach you how to use the
internet. You told me the other time you like Japanese
cooking. I have looked on the internet yesterday and found
hundreds of sites with really good recipes, dozens of sushi
secrets, not to mention the virtual Geisha's.
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