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If a person who has a long history of success and feelings of selfconfidence does fail, they still tend to expect success the next time out.
Conversely, when a person who is weak in the self-confidence
department fails, they tend to lose confidence, and begin to expect
failure, which can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Having true self-confidence doesn’t mean that you will be able to do
everything. People, who have true self-confidence, usually have
expectations that are realistic. Even when some of their expectations
are not met, they continue to be positive and to accept themselves.
People, who are not self-confident, tend to depend excessively on the
approval of others in order to feel good about themselves. They tend
to avoid taking risks because they fear failure. They often put
themselves down and tend to discount or ignore compliments that they
do receive.
But let me digress for a moment. Do you remember how hard it was for
you to solve the puzzle of the Rubik’s Cube? It seemed to be impossible.
And yet, there are competitions, and some kids can solve the puzzle in a
few seconds.
However, now here is the amazing thing, kids can solve these puzzles,
but adults find it almost impossible. Why do you think that is? It’s
because kids don’t know that it’s impossible to solve the puzzle, so
they can solve it. Maybe they don’t know it’s impossible because they
haven’t had enough time in their short life to experience much failure.
But by the time you are an adult, you have experienced failure at
various complex puzzles many times, and so your EXPECTATIONS are
very different from those of a child. And since you get what you
EXPECT
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Source: Greg Swanson
http://www.warriormindcoach.com/blog/2010/07/05/selfconfidence-and-success/

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