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Tracking According to Minuchin, tracking is where the therapist, “follows the content of the family’s communications and behaviour and encourages them to continue… In its simplist form it means to ask clarifying questions, to make approving comments, or to elicit amplification of a point.” (Minuchin (1974). With maintenance the therapist’s message seems to be, “I see you, I support you in this, I validate you and don’t judge”, in tracking the therapist’s message seems to be, “let me see if I am understanding correctly…can you help me by clarifying that last thing you said”. Tracking lets the therpist check with the family that she is understanding correctly, and at the same time she is allowing the family members to make clearer and more explicit the implicit feelings and thoughts of the members. Mimesis According to Minuchin, “A therapist uses mimesis to accommodate to a family’s style and affective [feeling range]. He adopts the family’s tempo of communication slowing his pace, for example, in a family that is accustomed to long pauses and slow responses. In a jovial family he becomes jovial and expansive. In a family with a restrictive style, his communication becomes sparse.” (Minuchin (1974)) The task with mimesis is to join the family, to be engage in mutual acceptance with them. To be taking into the confidences of a family in difficulty (or any family for that matter) and be of help requires a lot of trust. Minuchin mentions that mimesis can happen without the awareness of the therapist as she endeavours to “tune into” her client family. When I read about mimesis I thought of the concept of building rapport as outlined in NLP. Although a coach is not a therapist, the concept of joining coachees in their world is very valuable when we want to fully understand how they function and to accompany them through a process of change. The therapist needs to discover what is going wrong and then plan how to put it right. Only after the therapist has joined the family will she 713