How to Coach Yourself and Others Techniques For Coaching | Page 373

meeting up with someone often, nearly every day of the week, to do
various fun stuff, or just nothing at all.
Go ahead, daydream about how your chosen part of your life would
ideally look, if you could do anything you wanted…
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Now let’s pull a bit closer to the present. Pick a medium-term future.
Say, somewhere between 3 months and 1 year from now.
Imagine how you would like your ideal situation to be then. In my
example, this doesn’t really change anything. But if you’re focusing on
the business side of your life, for example, it’s a good idea to pull closer
to the present with a 1-year dream, and even 3-month dream. This
helps you move from vague daydreaming (as pleasant as it is) towards
making those dreams a reality.
Go ahead, think about your specific middle-term goal.
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Once you have it, start imagining it in great detail. How you would
feel when you wake up in the morning. What you would do during the
day. The people you would meet. The things you would say to yourself.
Do NOT neglect this step. It might sound small and simple, but it’s
incredibly powerful. Firstly, it gets you excited and motivated. Secondly,
it sets up cognitive dissonance in your mind. That’s where your brain
holds two conflicting thoughts, gets uncomfortable, and tries to resolve
the conflict by changing one of the thoughts.
In the case of imagining your ideal situation, your brain will start
looking for opportunities to start moving towards it. And trust me,
those opportunities are all around you. You just haven’t been noticing
them until now.
So take your time to imagine it, in full detail. This little time investment
of 5 minutes is extremely worth it.

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