How to Coach Yourself and Others Techniques For Coaching | Page 295

A coachee has become a coachee because his current approach doesn't
work. Something will have to change, but nobody likes to admit he was
wrong. Help the coachee to look at change as a process of growth and
not because of failure. Make it appealing to the coachee to try a
different approach and prevent loss of face.
If that is not enough, then it may be in the coachee's best interest to
have him face what he's trying to hide. First see if the coachee can
handle a confrontation, because you don't want a countereffect that
would damage or even destroyed the carefully constructed trusting
relationship. Keep showing respect and care towards the coachee, as
he's probably not able to envisage what will happen once he lets go of
what is familiar and doesn't know if he will be successful in the new
situation.
Oh well, I don't know. I think it's best if I continue to take care of
mother. Despite everything you said, though I understood what you
meant. But still...
What would you do with all the time you would have, if you didn't
have to spend all day taking care of your mother?
I understand it's not easy to stop taking care of your mother. But
you've told me you're on the verge of a breakdown and if that
happens you will be of no use to anyone and you wouldn't be able to
take care of her anymore anyway. What would have to happen to
keep you from breaking down?
I can see it's hard for you to stop taking care of you mother.
Continuing to take care of her won't change your own situation,
which is already too much for you as it is, with your own household
as well.... What's holding you back from involving other people in the
care of your mother?
I'm fat and diets don't work, it must be something genetic.
Changing your genes is impossible, but you could learn to be
selective about what you eat?

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