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upon the aid of others. This is a form of mind-game that can be found in
Transactional Analysis. This is a self-perpetuating cycle designed to
keep the Victim down and powerless. The key differentiation between a
Rescuer and a Coach is that the Coach sees the individual as capable of
making choices and of solving their own problems. A Coach asks
questions that enable the individual to see the possibilities for positive
action, to focus on what they do want instead of what they don't want.
Coaches see victims as Creators in their own right and meet them as
equals. This process interrupts the drama cycle and puts the former
victim in the powerful position of Creator where they make informed
choices and focus on outcomes instead of problems.
Sharon Stanley, Ph.D., is a scholar-practitioner in the field of somatic
psychotherapy who describes Victimhood as a "neurological image that
is held in the brain as a biological substrate". Dr. Stanley advocates the
use of the TED* framework to help individuals connect what they feel in
their bodies to what they believe in their minds to replace old
memories of victimhood with new beliefs in their individual potential.
The Empowerment Dynamic (*TED) - was developed by David
Womeldorff, a former Executive Trainer for BankOne and a current
faculty member of the Notre Dame Mendoza School of Business where
he incorporates TED* into their MBA curriculum. He is also the cofounder of The Bainbridge Leadership Center, keynote speaker, and
author writing under the pen name of David Emerald. TED* was first
published in 2006 as a paperback self-help book in a fable format under
the title The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) - The Key
to Creating an Extraordinary Life
Other Uses
The TED* framework has been used by several city and county
governments in the US to help stop the drama in the workplace as well
as in the educational and private sectors. In 2009, the TED* framework
was approved by a state prison warden and used (citation coming
soon) by an inmate to teach other prisoners how to shift their focus
from a problem/drama based lifestyle to a choice-based life.
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