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What would they do next?
If I had a “before miracle” and an “after miracle” movie of you
shown sideby-side, what differences would I see in your looks, your
behavior?
Have there been times when you have seen pieces of this miracle
happen?
Alternative approach:
Prof Miller maintained that people are often able to give themselves
excellent advice but often lack the framework and objectivity to do so,
so he taught me this little assignment...
Imagine that it is two years from now and everything in your life has
worked out well and the problems you are currently facing have been
successfully resolved. Everything is okay, your dreams have come true
and you are enjoying your life. Write yourself a letter from the "future
you" to the "you of today" not only explaining how you overcame
various difficulties, but just as importantly giving yourself
encouragement, praise and tips for how to deal with things.
It is an assignment that I have used many, many times and always
provokes a positive response. It can be given as a "homework" style
assignment or worked on "live" in a Life Coaching session. Both ways
work equally well.
The assignment encourages people to be pro-active in giving
themselves advice rather than relying on the practitioner to come up
with the answers. It also immediately stimulates a higher level of
confidence as people are "seeing" themselves as having changed
already. This easy method of generating "success experiences" is also a
hugely therapeutic element of the assignment.
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