How to Coach Yourself and Others Techniques For Coaching | Page 188

At the start of a session.
For example:
Harry, let's have a look at how we are doing so far. Three weeks
ago you came to see me for the first time because you noticed
you couldn't concentrate at work anymore and you are afraid
you will get fired. During our sessions we established that the
relationship with your girlfriend influences your work
substantially. Since you started living together you both really
have had to get used to the new situation. Is there anything you
would like to add to that?
Another example:
You've come to the conclusion that the last few years you've
mainly put your energy in taking care of your children, in
addition to the household. You got a lot of satisfaction out of
that. But since your youngest has gone to school, you've got a lot
of energy left and you have no real outlet for it , you feel you're
going around in circles. What aspects should we still look at
before we start looking for new goals or things to do?
Another example:
Bill, we've come a long way. We talked about your problems.
What lies at the heart of the matter is that you start a lot of
things, but you never really finish anything. The goal you set
yourself was to begin something and this time finish it, no
matter what, so you can get a sense of accomplishment. We
devised an action plan for this. When could you start putting
this plan into action?
Keep track of time, preferably unobtrusively. Reserve five to ten
minutes to round off the discussion. Look for a good moment to work
towards ending the conversation.

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