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Nice plans we've made, but I just don't seem to be able to carry
them out.
What's holding you back?
I keep forgetting!
How can you stop yourself from forgetting?
Write things on a piece of paper and put it on the back of the
door, so I see it before I leave the house.
That's a good idea. Here's a piece of paper...
I want to quit school because I don't think I will ever graduate.
Maybe, but you've studied hard for four years. You only
have a few more months to go. Actually you are virtually
there and now you want to throw away four years, just like
that?
Bit of a waste, eh?
It's your choice to throw away four years of effort.
I'm scared to death I will flunk.
So it's very important to you that you make it.
Yes, I didn't put in four years for nothing.
What would motivate you to go for it those last few months?

8. Summarise and invite action
We have discussed a number of issues…”
Then ask:

+ name them!

“Which issue is most important to you at this moment?”
‘What do you think you should do about …?’
“What will be your First step?”
“What will you do now?”
“How could you overcome this problem?”
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